Hi every1 !
I was simply wondering whether is it really so that usually a girl/lady invests/gives/sacrifices more in a relationship compared to a guy ?
Hi every1 !
I was simply wondering whether is it really so that usually a girl/lady invests/gives/sacrifices more in a relationship compared to a guy ?
Yeah I think the girl does give up more. Afterall in most cases, it is the girl that moves into the guys house. She leaves her home state or family behind. Very rarely do you see it the opposite way around (unless you married someone from the homeland).
If a divorce happens, it is alwys the girl who happens to suffer more. Guys rebound easiy, while women unfairly become society's outcasts even when it was the guys fault. So with that fear in mind, I know many women do a lot of compromise to save a marriage.
Re: Who invests more ?
In a successful and healthy relationship a man and woman invest differently but mutually. There will ALWAYS be a give and take in every relationship. One person might give in the form of gifts. Another person might give in the form of emotional support, you know what I mean? A woman might sacrifice her career goals to stay home and raise her family. A man might invest long hours at work to financially support his wife and children. Men and women are made to compliment each other. They may not think the same...but they both have qualities that can balance each other out. It takes compromise, investment, and sacrifice from both parties to make a relationship work. And sacrifice/investment/compromise take place in different forms from both genders.
Re: Who invests more ?
you cannot generalize who sacrifices more because ALTHOUGH a woman sacrifices and leaves her parents home, gives birth, gets out of shape for that, leaves career, whatever, the main thing that matters is AT THE END the guy still provides for her and looks after her.
A women can be done with giving birth and rebound in career as soon as 5 years after giving birth... BUT A GUYS RESPONSIBLITY REMAINS for the life time.
And I salute my hubby for that!
you cannot generalize who sacrifices more because ALTHOUGH a woman sacrifices and leaves her parents home, gives birth, gets out of shape for that, leaves career, whatever, the main thing that matters is AT THE END the guy still provides for her and looks after her.
A women can be done with giving birth and rebound in career as soon as 5 years after giving birth... BUT A GUYS RESPONSIBLITY REMAINS for the life time.
And I salute my hubby for that!
awww......i hope i'm a good wife like you inshallah!
Re: Who invests more ?
I believe it's the girls. Sorry guys, but most men want to work and do well in their jobs, even if they were bachelors, because it improves their status. I don't think women enjoy changing diapers or dealing with their post-partum body changes. I think the increased sacrifice/investment is partially their own fault though- women are more likely to accomodate their lifestyle for the husband, so their husband doesn't find it necessary to reciprocate. Or they like complaining about being left with all the housework, but criticize everything their husband does when he helps. Definitely they sacrifice more physically- a lot of things get de-prioritized once the family starts, especially since there is more emphasis on a woman's physical traits that are in her control than a man's/
Also, i don't know if it's just me, but I don't really no of any girl in my generation that doesn't work to supplement the household income, since everything is so expensive now. I realize that the men work and everything, but in the long run it does seem to be the female that has to compromise a lot more...My mom says that that's why Allah swt says this that a chaste woman who is mindful of namaaz and roza, also makes khidmat for her husband, for her all the 8 doors of jannat are opened. She may enter from whichever doors she likes...
and that when a woman does zikar while sweeping she has the reward of the baitullah
and that Every night of an expectant a woman who is carrying a baby in her womb is counted as spent in ibaadat and every day as spent in fasting*.*
so my mom says That's why there's such good reward for muslim women cuz Allah mian knows our lives are a littler harder.
In a successful and healthy relationship a man and woman invest differently but mutually. There will ALWAYS be a give and take in every relationship. One person might give in the form of gifts. Another person might give in the form of emotional support, you know what I mean? A woman might sacrifice her career goals to stay home and raise her family. A man might invest long hours at work to financially support his wife and children. Men and women are made to compliment each other. They may not think the same...but they both have qualities that can balance each other out. It takes compromise, investment, and sacrifice from both parties to make a relationship work. And sacrifice/investment/compromise take place in different forms from both genders.
I completely agree with redvelvet. In a healthy marriage, both the husband and wife have different but equal responsibilities towards each other.
Unfortunately, in our culture, the wife does end up sacrificing more by adjusting to in-laws' demands or the husband's unreasonable behavior. However, from an Islamic point of view, the wife has as many rights over her husband as the husband does over her. Too bad the men in our culture often forget that and take their wives for granted.
Re: Who invests more ?
both invest equally. It's a risk both take, not just one person by themselves.
It is not a marriage otherwise.