nana nani or dada dadi?
In our culture we usually see a dominance of the dada dadi even if they aren’t living together as they believe they have more rights toward their pota potees. I’ve heard that their “khoon” flows more in the grandkids.
When it comes to love and respect, rights are equal. But yeah, Dadda/Daddi have more say in comparison. Mostly, they get to have a bigger say in naming the children, more visiting rights, etc.
Nikki!!!!!!!! It's to do with lineage of course. Son's carry the blood-line; son's kids part of dada's lineage whereas nana is there to spoil kids.
Re: Who has more "haq?"
In my family both the maternal and paternal grandparents have the exact same rights/ 'haq'
The mommy and the daddy usually pour in equal amounts of blood into the child eh/ so yeah, while it’s perfectly understandable that the children take after the dad’s name etc., why the special advantage to the dada dadi?
Re: Who has more "haq?"
i've never met my papa's family
may be because of hubby Niki sis. coz aurat ko phir mard kay taabe hona hota hai na. shayad isiliay
Re: Who has more "haq?"
^i think you are right.
It’s simple…ours is a heavily patriarchal culture. Dada/Dadi are THE man’s parents.
The ‘haq’ is further compounded because children usually grew up in their dada’s home in joint families.
Re: Who has more "haq?"
islam main Wilayat ka haq daar pehlay baap ko or phir dada ko haasil hay
maslaan agar kissi bachay ya bachi kay walid mojood nahi to phir un ka wali un kay dada hon gay agar mojood hain to
maloom hoa dada ka haq pootay per mazhab nay zyada rakha hai : )
ps > mazeed maloomat k ley pm service dastyaab hai : P
Re: Who has more "haq?"
^ I am not to sure about your statement above.
In my personal opinion both have equal rights to see love and cherish their grand child. You cannot say that Dada jee loves pota more then Nana jee loves his Nawasa...love cannot be compared.
I think it's more a cultural thing and it's different in each situation.
My children have spent very little time with their dada/dadi for example, they've spent a lot of time with my own parents. But mostly in our culture dada/dadee receive or take dominance over the grandchildren because we have such a patriarchal society. When a female is married off, suddenly she's considered 'property' of her husbands family, her children will also mostly "belong" to the husbands family, though in Islam she's not necesarily so, it's more a cultural thing than a religious thing in my opinion.
Re: Who has more "haq?"
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^ I am not to sure about your statement above.
In my personal opinion both have equal rights to see love and cherish their grand child. You cannot say that Dada jee loves pota more then Nana jee loves his Nawasa...love cannot be compared.
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that was not my personal statement ..i said according to ISLAM
and the actual issue is not about LOVE ....niksik asked about HAQ...( thats what i understand)
if u remember this hadith in which a person asked to prophet(salallaho alyhi wasalam who has more haq between mother n father ... prophet(salallho alyhi waslam) answered three times your mother
so do u think if someone said his father loves more then his mother so hadith will be change in this case ???... ofcourse noway!
there is huge difference btw LOVE N HAQ
some times yours friends loves you more then your relatives but when u asked about HAQ ...then obviously islam prefare relatives