Re: Who closed "Suhagraat"
awww thts not rite......did u get the answer yet or no???
oh no i am damn serious... just wait couple of weeks Isha Allah i will be posting my card as well here but wats the big deal... there are people like me... i have no shame in calling myself paindoo... its fine... I GUESS...
what does paindo mean?
Re: Who closed "Suhagraat"
ask linux....;)
awww thts not rite......did u get the answer yet or no???
yes i got the answer and thanks to all u nice people
what does paindo mean?
paindo... lolz... i don't know how to explain it.... probably "uncultured to modern city customs"
paindo... lolz... i don't know how to explain it.... probably "uncultured to modern city customs"
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ok does it mean like some one who is old fashioned? we call it TP (typical) some one who likes to do things the old fashioned way?
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i like it, the way you've explained the word paindoo... hehehe
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Hey, Linux goodluck InshAllah everything will b ok... May Allah bless you both with a lovely married life.
I think the "pervert" comment was more directed at JL and his way of thinking, not at you Linux. Or they suspect that you may be fishing for a sex thread on GS which I really dont think is the case here. Anyway, not to worry, most people who have responded do not have that impression of you.
ANYway, heres the thing...the BIG thing. You will marry a woman that perhaps you do not know. Of course you will both be nervous about the first night. Perhaps everyone will want all the details of that night but you know what? The things that go on in the bedroom between a husband and wife is NO ONEs business but your own. A simple response of "Our first night was beautiful" is more than sufficient answer to nosy people who poke their noses where they dont belong.
As far as for you and your bride, you COULD approach things as JL would - that being to go ahead no matter how your bride feels about it. OR you can be a caring gentleman and take things as they come. If your bride is scared and uncomfortable, you can go ahead and basically rape her. Or you can tell her that its ok, that things will happen when they are meant to happen and you want it to be nice and a good experience for BOTH of you.
JL's way is for the benefit of OTHERS and what they think. Forget about the feelings of the new bride and how SHE feels for her new husband. That way will make a VERY lasting impression and set the scene for a marriage based on "ownership". Do you think your bride will have any kind of positive feeling for you with this type of approach?
Take your time and consider the feelings of your new bride and she will LOVE you and respect you forever. Hopefully, this is more important to you than what the other simian-types say if you postpone it until BOTH of you are ready. Sex and making love is something to be shared between two willing and eager consenting adults. When this is the case, its much more likely to be a much enjoyed activity instead of a dreaded "duty". And THIS is explained in the Koran.
QUR'AN DOES NOT EXPLAIN OR SAY'S ANYTHING LIKE...TWO WILLING & EAGER CONSENTING ADULTS...!!
There is no such thing as TWO WILLING & EAGER CONSENTING ADULTS!
The only endowment for the act referred hereinto as coitus...is sacred and conditional between two binded by NIKAH..that's all...not an iota of any FREE WORLD theory here!
paindo... lolz... i don't know how to explain it.... probably "uncultured to modern city customs"
ok does it mean like some one who is old fashioned? we call it TP (typical) some one who likes to do things the old fashioned way?
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yes i guess so.... he people can i have a little help here
thank you veer zara
Re: Who closed "Suhagraat"
your gonna be getting married in 2 months:) you should try to approach the girl.....get to know her what her likes/dislikes are :D
your gonna be getting married in 2 months:) you should try to approach the girl.....get to know her what her likes/dislikes are :D
Lolzzzz... easiest answer "why". I can get to know all of that after marriage...
QUR'AN DOES NOT EXPLAIN OR SAY'S ANYTHING LIKE...TWO WILLING & EAGER CONSENTING ADULTS...!!
There is no such thing as TWO WILLING & EAGER CONSENTING ADULTS! The only endowment for the act referred hereinto as coitus...is sacred and conditional between two binded by NIKAH..that's all...not an iota of any FREE WORLD theory here!
ok we are starting to mince words here which is really not the idea or the intent of the thread...but ok, Koran says "SACRED and CONDITIONAL" ....I read into that love and caring. NOT "do it even if she does not want to". So I used my own words but it boils down to the same thing yeah? AND its a newly married couple we are talking about - so nothing here about "free world theory" by which I think you are trying to imply free love or unmarried sex or something....neither of which was intended here. ANYway, if the bride is uncomfortable with the idea, if she doesnt "want to" on the wedding night, there is NOTHING sacred or conditional when the husband "plows his field" anyway. Yeah?
As far as the word "Paindoo"....its meant to describe closed-minded, chest-beating ignoramuses who refuse to listen to any idea that disagrees with their own simian, oppressive and chauvanistic opinions. Apes really. Its an insultive term.
Linux, you are FAR from "Paindoo". You're a caring individual, obviously, since you came here seeking advice in a caring way for your bride. She is a lucky gal.
Lolzzzz... easiest answer "why". I can get to know all of that after marriage...
haan, but after marriage you wont be able to change your mind Mr paindo :D
haan, but after marriage you wont be able to change your mind mr paindo :D
well yes u r rite.... but i am not wrong either... i cann't do it... i don't feel comfortable talking to her in presence of elders and i feel very uncomfortable seeking permission asking her out or even asking her to come to fone or anything....
In fact i would like to discuss many issues like matching of clothes and others as she is a designer but i cann't do it.....
I guess mamaof3 can better guide in this regard as well
well yes u r rite.... but i am not wrong either... i cann't do it... i don't feel comfortable talking to her in presence of elders and i feel very uncomfortable seeking permission asking her out or even asking her to come to fone or anything.... In fact i would like to discuss many issues like matching of clothes and others as she is a designer but i cann't do it..... I guess mamaof3 can better guide in this regard as well
u knw you will be kicking your self for it after woulds:D
khair you should find someone who is close to the both of you to pass messages.
**Mamaof3, **will you get your head out of your behind and stop moaning and growling for no reason. Since these type of threads pop up every other month, I was merely being sarcastic in it.
These type of threads tend to be funny and they should treated as such. Why would someone go on a PUBLIC board and ask for advice on HOW to treat their wife? I don't understand the moral or logical point in that... if person is wondering about if they should have sex or not have sex or how they should treat their wife on first night, they should not be getting married, period.
These personal questions should be answered by your close friends and those who know your situation and can guide you properly not some public forum filled with feminist communists who can't handle or understand simple sarcasm or pun within posts and can't tolerate difference of opinion no matter how "paindoo" it may sound to the moronic modernists.
We can see how you think and your mentality with the post that arjay highlighted.
Linux, cheetay... it is better for you if you do it the first night as the girl will be expecting and waiting FOR YOU TO MAKE THE MOVE. You can go for week and not have sex, she will not ask you nor will she hint unless you've had some communication prior to nikah or something. So, you should seek advice from your friends. Getting to "KNOW" her won't tell you if she wants to have sex... she will never ask you for it and as a dominant species you need to make the move, you have to show the way and carry the burden. If it was one of these girls here or aunties, you wouldn't have to do anything as they would do all the work.
Also, please keep your personal matters to your self as it puts you in line of fire and potentially gives people a reason to speak as they did in the thread which was locked and this thread as well. So be careful and seek advice from your offline friends and family who KNOW you better than these commies.
Best of luck
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Linux, cheetay... it is better for you if you do it the first night as the girl will be expecting and waiting FOR YOU TO MAKE THE MOVE. You can go for week and not have sex, she will not ask you nor will she hint unless you've had some communication prior to nikah or something. So, you should seek advice from your friends. Getting to "KNOW" her won't tell you if she wants to have sex... she will never ask you for it and as a dominant species you need to make the move, you have to show the way and carry the burden. If it was one of these girls here or aunties, you wouldn't have to do anything as they would do all the work.
HAHAHA, i see why people want to get you banned
By the way are you married?
yo JL common... I am thankful for your mighty advice but dude do respect others... all of us here are friends... friends behind walls... we can hear each other but we don't know who is he or on the other side....
so there is nothing wrong to discuss anything around such forums as long as privacy is kept...
you should be funny its very fine but keep others respect... formula is simple u respect others, others respect you....
you can choose it to be anyway... u can say bad things about others and the others will do the same for you... or u can talk nice and others will respect you.. they will wait for u arrival... seek your advice....
but i am just suggesting.... choice is yours... in anyway wat so ever u choose no harm is done anyway other then making others feel as ur identity is hidden... but i will prefer a lighter mode....
and the request is to keep it low man... we are having a nice smooth talk... and its fun ... why ruine that
and lastly mamaof3 is a lady and the nick shows mother as well... so special request for the ladies man.... atleast the area where i belong, people there do that... just a polite request
yo JL common... I am thankful for your mighty advice but dude do respect others... all of us here are friends... friends behind walls... we can hear each other but we don't know who is he or on the other side.... so there is nothing wrong to discuss anything around such forums as long as privacy is kept...
you should be funny its very fine but keep others respect... formula is simple u respect others, others respect you....
you can choose it to be anyway... u can say bad things about others and the others will do the same for you... or u can talk nice and others will respect you.. they will wait for u arrival... seek your advice....
but i am just suggesting.... choice is yours... in anyway wat so ever u choose no harm is done anyway other then making others feel as ur identity is hidden... but i will prefer a lighter mode....
and the request is to keep it low man... we are having a nice smooth talk... and its fun ... why ruine that
and lastly mamaof3 is a lady and the nick shows mother as well... so special request for the ladies man.... atleast the area where i belong, people there do that... just a polite request
What did I say which was disrespectful?
And people on line or just because you are in a community does not make them your friends, get real buddy.
You think people talking about your wife or your future wife and how you should treat her and have sex with her and should you have sex with her is a fun talk? It is a smooth talk? Whao!
I don't have no respect for those who can't tolerate my opinion and can't respect me, be it a lady, a man or a kusra. Show me where I blasted someone or called someone a paindoo just because they have a different take on a subject matter? And frankly, I don't have any respect for people who play the victim when someone responds to them or display their *communist *mindset on a public forum.
Anyway, you have fun having smooth talk about your wife and your sexual endeavors with her. Good luck.
Anyway, you have fun having smooth talk about your wife and your sexual endeavors with her. Good luck.
HAHAHAHA!