white or western women and relations

[shaasavera]

Re: white or western women and relations

@OneYourMomWarnedAbt

It is upsetting, true, but don’t be embarrassed. How is this any different than a white guy or a black guy doing the same? We don’t see whites or blacks holding collective guilt over it. We, as Muslims, seem to do this a lot. Anyone among us does something bad, we all feel guilty, and think we need to either defend or differentiate. The fact is, it takes all kinds to make up a community.

I think it is the mainly collectivist culture of East vs individualist culture of West which are the reason.

I mean white guys also boast to their friends about their activities. Indian guys regardless of religion do this as well. I wonder if people who act like this being a minority ever think how their actions will later affect them or their communities.

I can completely understand and sympathise where Nina is coming from. It is very embarrassing to be honest when you hear from a friend they were dating an Indian or Pakistani guy who they like and are in love with. Only to later find out they dumped them to marry a desi girl or someone from back home. As a minority you can’t help but apologise for these actions as you don’t want it to reflect badly on you.

Then there are some guys who dump a brown girl because she won’t do these activities only to later leave a white girl and find the appropriate desi girl when it comes time for marriage. This happened to a friend and I feel like maybe there should be something done about this. Maybe a name and shame page for people with these double standards as “what will people say”/online humiliation is the only thing that gets to them.

I am only kidding about the name and shame page.