Ladies:
If someone was interested in you, their intentions were serious, and they wanted to get to know you better, would you prefer it if they approached you personally, or if they spoke to your family first?
Men:
Would you rather go to a girl directly, or go to her family and get their permission to get to know her/talk to her?
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prefer if the person approach me personally rather than my family.
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she did the same to me and it felt really nice the way she did - asked me, 'would you become my friend ?'
so, i said, 'yes, please.' :)
i cannot think of leaving her. i respect her so much for all the nice things she says when i am uncertain in life. in UK, weather is always uncertain. cheers!
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I would like him to approach me personally rather than my family. Coming from a strict family, they would prob question me how i came to know of that guy. This way, i can tell mum and than she can introduce him to THE guy...
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I’d rather he approach me first because if my family gets involved and they end up liking him before I get to know him…I’ll feel like there is too much pressure on me.
I want my family to get involved in the getting to know process…but I’d like to be the one to weed people out before they approach them 
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hehe!
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If he approached me first I'd end up telling my family anyway, so it doesnt matter whom he approaches first. I think if I had to choose between the two, I'd prefer if he approached my family first. smile
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Family....as family always does the intial screening:D
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Family....as family always does the intial screening:D
lolzz yes that's true
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Family....as family always does the intial screening:D
if it's someone that i dont know...then yea family first...
but if its a guy i know...then it's different.
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When the timing is right, either way will do.
If I know him....Id not admit it to my family. Appearances matters more than being truthful due to my "bad choice" of the past. Its always the best friend that turns into the worst enemy, knowing all your secrets...lol
Everybody wants to marry their friend, but family life is not based upon friendship, its too weak to be the bearing fundement in current generation.
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Men: Would you rather go to a girl directly, or go to her family and get their permission to get to know her/talk to her?
Which grass are you smoking, naty baby. You expect a guy to go to a father in our culture to get his permission to take his daughter out on date
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Men: Would you rather go to a girl directly, or go to her family and get their permission to get to know her/talk to her?
I need to go back to Pakistan as soon as possible.
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i will go to lady first bcouz she is a big girl now she don't need the mommydaddy to decide for her! and if she accept she will come live with me. If she reject me i will still make her live with me
hehehehe
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Im already married...BUT
I think its better if the guy approaches the girl 1st, especially if he knows her to get an idea of how she feels, and whether the feeling is mutual. If it is then the 2 of them can get to know each other, doesn't have to be a "date"...but just so they can find out what they need to know...and if its positive....he can then approach the parents....
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If I knew the guy, I would go ahead and tell my parents. If I didnt know him at all, it really depends on other things too including the guy; in that case I would probably get to know him on my own and then if I feel something could come out of it (worthwhile) then tell my parents myself . I dont think its a good idea to send the guy to your parents when they have no idea who this guy is cuz they would not be too happy, or at least I dont think they would be.
As for the guy, I really hope he is not so stupid to go up to my parents without asking me even once unless he is a family friend or close relative cuz then 'other' issues arise.
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i think familly first
