which phase of life of a gupshup forum's member is better ?

you can’t, that is the whole purpose of kicking/banning.

back to topic now: Being a senior member. once you are mod, members start to treat you as foes and forget that mods are chosen from them. your every post is judged on that & your person opinion is taken as “official” stand. the +ve aspect is that you start to post more sensibly.