Re: Which one of these should you disclose?
i personally wld go n talk to both of them...the first women id xcuse n pull aside say today i have seen u tom or even the next moment anyone else cn see u if u really feel u doing wat is ryte take a proper step n continue but dunt ruin the reputation of ur family (husband+kids) and ur parents family...wat u do has consequences!
n dont worry i wont tell anyone but r u sure if someone else u knw sees u wont tell anyone either?
second senerio with the college gurl id talk to her also n tell her the same thing abt her family and the consequences past n their reputation..id suggest her to get connected wid her faith n see wat it says abt it if shes serious abt the guy & tell tht her parents xpects more frm her they r spending so muchmoney on ur education n given u freedom not so tht u pull such stunts..refer to ur Islam n get answers as to at ur religon has to say abt this cuzin the end itsonly ur God ht wld judge u..these r wordly relationship n will last few yrs n will b left behind by everyman!