Which one do you find more effective?

Lifestyle Relationships
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  1. Falling in love with someone & then marrying him/her?
  2. Marrying someone & then falling in love with him/her?
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speak for yourself. Guys dont have to pick one. We can try both, twice ;)

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Number 1. I've always felt uneasy about the second option.

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Which ever option has bigger boobs. That is the one I go for. Simple isn't it?

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2.

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Number 1 should always be the option I think.

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1.

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1..

What RV and Hareem said..

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1.

But one can be done the arranged way too in the sense that your parents introduce you and you fall in love before your actual wedding day if that makes sense

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1 all the way. My parents tried to arrange me w/ my khala's son and I cringe to think about it. 1 all the way.

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would have wanted option 1 for me before shadi..but ended up with option 2 ...and a very instant option 2 it was :p

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I don't think either are "more effective" I think it all just depends. Mine is (2) didnt know my guy AT ALL. Totally, do not for a second, regret my parents decision for me. By far the most amazing husband a girl could want. So amazing I ask him often whether he's part of a long running dream. He loves that.

My parents was a (1) not the most amazing relationship, but they love each other. My uncles were all (1) dire relationships. One of my friends was a (2) they argue like hell all the time over stupid things and let things escalate to ridiculous points. Mums best mate is (2) is indian, married a pakistani, caused issues with her fam, with his fam and now after 25 odd years, she wants out. So I'd say it's just a roll of the dice.

Falling in love after marriage, was always what I envisioned for myself. I don't believe in the kind of love beforehand to be honest; I think people confuse infatuation with love often, reinforced by the rate at which people say "I love you". Took me 10 months to realise and tell him I loved him, and that was after a minor argument and I just thought to myself, Urgh, gawd, you care about this guy.

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So true..

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The middle option.

Just what inspiron said.

Afterall, we all get sufficient time to know the person we are about to marry and we can fall in love with them before the marriage. If we don't like them, we can always part our ways. Everyone is not lucky enough to find a good person on their own and when they are introduced to someone suitable through family, friends, rishta walis etc, we should be open to the idea of considering them for marriage (of course after we feel comfortable with them and find the compatibility and chemistry).

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1.5, half way between the two.