Re: Which dress is from which side of the family
for me, my parents bought my clothes just because the hubs is non-pakistani and giving clothes is not in their culture. for my best friend who is desi (karachi, originally from india) and who married a desi too, only her engagement outfit/ewellery for the day were a surprise from her in-laws. her mehendi and shaadi outfits as well as her jaheyz outfits, they gave her money for and she had them made herself, and she also had matching jewellery made that they also paid for.
when my brother gets married, my mom will most likely give a few clothes to match the jewellery that she'll give to her daughter in law, and then will give her money to buy the rest of her jaheyz, and her own mehendi/shaadi/valima outfits as she pleases along with the jewellery for those.