Re: Where to raise your kids
I am saying the following based on certain assumptions I made based on the information you provided. Please pardon my naiveté' if I am wrong.
If you move out of this place and live in a middle class neighborhood you can afford Hilfiger and what not. You will be able to afford a vacation on the French Riviera too. You and kids might not care about all this yet. You might not care about it all , all your life.
But the kids are little now pretty soon they will start to see and count what they are missing and question you and your husband and their life will be very miserable.
If one or two can afford a higher lifestyle than yours in a neighborhood it is easy to train kids to count their blessings but if the whole neighborhood is high up there and you are the lowest on the food chain then it pays to move out to where you are not at the top of the food chain but at least you are like everybody else.
I am sure you can find at least one middle class neighborhood with good school district in and around NY.
Obviously your husband feels very proud when he tell everybody where he lives when asked in a party. That is very empowering feeling. More powerful than telling others about other kind of fun you and your family is missing out on.