One can’t watch continuously in a person’s eyes while talking, specially to elders / seniors / stranger..etc. How do you keep your eyes switch places during conversations ? What factors does it depend upon ? I mean at times people look towards the wall, or floor while talking… Does looking straight into your eyes at times make you uncomfortable and interrupt your thought process while talking to someone you respect a lot ?
Anything else you feel that makes a discussion easy going / difficult only because of proper / improper use of looking / staring ?
p.s. Serious replies and clean ones only appreciated. Of course I am only talking about discussions with “Mehrams”. We all (Muslims) know that we aren’t allowed to look at the non-mehram if we are forced to have a conversation.
Re: Where to keep one's eyes during a conversation ?
Um tbh I've never had to think about if it's with familiar people.
At job interviews and meeting new people sometimes I do become aware of eye contact and generally just look to the side of their eyes occasionally giving eye contact so you look genuine and not like i'm hiding something..
Also if I'm trying to work out a situation or a question I tend to look away, eye contact is distracting and pressurising.
Re: Where to keep one's eyes during a conversation ?
Never thought about it. Their face in general. I feel rather uncomfortable when a girl looks straight into my eyes the entire time we are talking. Its like she is a creepy stalker with unblinking doll eyes.
Re: Where to keep one's eyes during a conversation ?
In the west, eye contact is considered a sign of respect, esp if in an academic and career setting.
With that said, I'm not comfortable with eye contact at all, I'll do it for an interview or speaking with a boss/professor, but in a social setting...nah. just generally looking in their direction is good enuff.
Re: Where to keep one’s eyes during a conversation ?
Well when I’m speaking to a totall stranger then eye contact is an absolute must! Not becuase i’m looking for love! But becuase best way to judge an opponent is to watch the eyes and most people give thier intentions away by the eyes… besides it also seems a way of respect… and worset comes to worse you have a gauge on them and I have yet to meet a person I could not stare down
With most people I know and who are my peers or somtimes works bosses then I tend to look at a point above thier heads… imagine you’ve got something over thier head like a hammer…
With people whom I dearly respect such as elders or important people best to look at the ground or stare into the distance… they know I’m paying deference to them.
Everyone else be prepared to go eye to eye… :faris:
Re: Where to keep one's eyes during a conversation ?
It's hard looking at someone's eyes for long periods, if the other person does the same..it really makes me uncomfortable. Please look here and there for a few seconds inbetween too.. PLEASE.
Re: Where to keep one's eyes during a conversation ?
I'm usually quite alright with talking to people and looking at their faces without any dodgy thoughts in my mind but if I find someone very attractive I try not to even look in his direction again....even my husband has noticed that about me.
Re: Where to keep one's eyes during a conversation ?
It's hard looking at someone's eyes for long periods, if the other person does the same..it really makes me uncomfortable. Please look here and there for a few seconds inbetween too.. PLEASE.
I know... most of the time I don't even notice when making eye contact but if I become aware that I'm looking someone in the eye it gets kinda uncomfortable and I have to look away.
this thread reminds me of my business studies teacher at school, whenever she'd shout at me she'd be looking me in the eye but appeared to be looking at the wall behind me, it was funny lol. I think its a medical condition.
