In their own cot? In the bed with you? In a separate room?
What age should they move to a separate room (if not from birth?)
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Before my daughter was born, my grand plan was to always get her to sleep in the cot and in my room for 6 months as is usually advised then move her to her own room.
Then she was born and had other plans!
For first 6 weeks, she napped on me or in the sling and slept at night in a carry cot. But since then we have been co-sleeping as she never settled down easily and I was desperate for some sleep.
She is 10 months old now and I’m sensing it will be a battle of nerves to get her to sleep in her own bed.
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Whatever works for you so long as it’s safe for the baby. Generally it’s good to have them in their own space like in a co-sleeper attached to the bed or put the crib next to your bed, or use a Moses basket or bassinet. No pillows and no blankets. Only a tight swaddle if you must. And always on their backs to minimize the risk of SIDS.
The kid and I ended up co-sleeping for 11 months at night; he would occasionally nap in his crib. Hubby slept in the nursery on a daybed. At 11 months, he wanted his own space and transitioned into his crib and then into the daybed. He’s three and a quarter now mashAllah and prefers his own room and his own bed any time over sleeping with us, thankfully haha.
With this baby, we will be staying at my moms for a few months before moving out of town so we will be co sleeping out of necessity. Inshallah at around 3-4 months, once we have moved, my goal is to move the new baby into his or her room and crib vs. co sleeping for as long as I did with my son.
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Whatever works for you as far as it is safe.
My older son co-slept with us for a month, then we moved him back to the crib, he was in the crib till he turned 18 months. At 18months we transitioned from bottle to sippy cup, he refused sleeping in the crib and was back in the bed with us. The 2nd one has been sleeping in the crib since day 1.
We will move them to their room once we have a bigger place. InshahAllah!
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Zayash - my thinking is also to get her to sleep next to me in a Moses basket for the first 6 months (providing she fits in there for that long!) and then move her into a cot in a separate room, right next door. But hubby is already being possessive (she’s not even born yet lol) saying she is sleeping with us until she’s at least 3 lol.
I don’t have any hard or fast rule to be honest - I just wanted an idea of what other people do. Mainly because when you are pregnant you are continuously fed this commercial idea of creating a ‘nursery’ - a special, separate room for the baby to put it’s cot, changing table, wardrobe, nursing chair, and all other possible baby related things you could buy. And I just wondered, do people actually use the room from birth - in fact, is it even safe for baby sleep alone from birth?
My other fear in the back of my mind is, as SGC mentioned, preventing the risk of SIDS. My understanding is it’s safer for baby to sleep in the same room as you to prevent this.
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I co slept with the first one for first 4 months and then he preferred crib.. he slept in his crib until he turned 2.. he went through the phase of wanting to sleep in our bed in our room for like a month or two but he is back in his room, in his twin bed and he will turn 3 in November.
my second one.. she slept in the crib month 1 and 2 but then I was getting tired of taking her out, nursing, putting her back in etc so I just kept her in bed and now at 5 months, she is sleeping with us.. no plans to move her out for another few months.. I like it this way.
ps! my son had his crib in his room until he was about 7 months.. then we moved to the house with a huge master bedroom so we moved his crib in our room and it stayed there until he was about 20 months old.. we moved again and he got his own room. For the second one, her crib is in our room and will stay there until she is at least 1 and sleeping through the night. 
no hard and fast rules.. whatever works for you.
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It’s safer for the newest babies to hear their parents breathe because it helps them regulate their breathing. Some people say this can be a step against SIDS.
HOWEVER, when co sleeping in your bed, you MUST make sure there is ample room, not a lot of fluffy pillows or blankets, and enough space so either of you will not rollover on the baby during sleep. So that’s why it’s a good idea to place the crib next to your bed or have something like the Arms Reach Co Sleeper next to your bed and within easy reach.
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My son slept in his crib ( playpen) until he was 15 months old. I had a bad throat infection and I cracked few ribs due to severe coughing. it was getting difficult for me to get him in and out of the crib ( I was also 7 months pregnant) I made a mistake of bringing him into our bed and now at 20 months he refuse to sleep in his own bed. His dad likes him in bed so much that he doesn’t even want me to try moving him to his room. My 4 month old sleeps in his crib since birth and I m planning on moving him to his room when he’s 6 months inshallah.
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we plan on having the crib in our room for first 6 months and then move it to the baby’s room. ill have to get up so many times at night to feed the baby, so it will be easier for me if the baby is in the room with us
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what tips and tricks your guys have if your child doesnt sleep in his cot. my son is 18 months old and he did sleep in his bassinett for 6 months and than after a trip to pak he is sleeping with me. i have his fav cartoon quilt cover and sheet sets and he likes it but will not sleep in his cot. his cot is next to my bed but he wants to sleep with me.