If a ladies husband dies , should she continue living with her inlaws , or go to her parents or live alone ?
What if she is expecting or has a small child ?
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whoever she feels more comfortable with. kids or no kids, she shouldn't HAVE to live with either set if she doesn't want to.
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Depends on her financial situation and whether her inlaws want to keep her or not.
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or if she has a job etc etc
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i think she should go to her parent's house as there are so many problems with inlaws when husband is alive i wonder how they will treat if their son is dead....better leave
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There is no point living with in-laws both Islamically and socially.
If she does not have a source of income and inlwas want to help, they can still help her. Only if she does not have any place to go (her parents passed away etc), then she should stay with inlaws but keep on looking for place to move.
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There is no point living with in-laws both Islamically and socially.
If she does not have a source of income and inlwas want to help, they can still help her. Only if she does not have any place to go (her parents passed away etc), then she should stay with inlaws but keep on looking for place to move.
What if the inlaws say that she has their grandchild so she should stay with them ?
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^and does she want to stay with them? if not, they really have no legal/social/cultural right to keep her there like a prisoner. but then knowing how our people/society works.....good luck in arguing that.
Moving out doesn't mean the children are cut off from the grandparents. Although I guess in a way it's nice.....I do know of some women and their children who were basically discarded by the grandparents/aunts/uncles etc after the father/husband passed away, adn the fathers side wanted nothing to do with the widow and their children. If they were nice and treated her well, and she sees no reason to leave then there's really no issue now is htere.
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What if the inlaws say that she has their grandchild so she should stay with them ?
Its HER children first than their grandchildren. Living separately does not mean that she is cutting off grandchildren from grandparents. Once husband dies, even Father in law become namehram. Meeting once in a while with namehrams is totally different from living b/w them day and night.
My cousin passed away at the young age of upper 30s. He has couple of kids. Even though bhabi lives alone now but she has never forced kids to cut off contact with us (or grandparents). We talk almost every couple of weeks and meet once in couple of months. Whenever she goes to Pakistan, kids stay for good week or two.
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An argument was wht led to this thread:bummer:
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Its HER children first than their grandchildren. Living separately does not mean that she is cutting off grandchildren from grandparents. Once husband dies, even Father in law become namehram. Meeting once in a while with namehrams is totally different from living b/w them day and night.
Now , that's something new.I didnt know FIL becomes Na mehram.
Thank you for that info :D
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first ask her to apply for the guardianship of the child you never know his parents file the case later....her parents should come to take her with them also i think they should tell them that they can meet their grandchild anytime*
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Now , that's something new.I didnt know FIL becomes Na mehram. Thank you for that info :D
There are two types of mehrams/na-mehrams
1) Permanent or blood mahrams: Such as brothers, sister, father, grandfather, grandmother, uncle, son, daughter etc etc
2) In-law mahrams: FIL, MIL, SIL, stepfather etc etc. They remain mehram till the time woman is in Nikkah of that person.
PS: There is 3rd type too called RADA (or person who u have shared milk with). So you become mehram with someone if nursed by same woman (some other conditions apply though)
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That’s sad. I’m assuming she wants to leave but the in laws are forcing her to stay? How long ago did the husband pass away? And how old are the kids?
Yeh na ho k FIL/BIL shadi karnay ki koshish karein… :halo:
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There are two types of mehrams/na-mehrams
1) Permanent or blood mahrams: Such as brothers, sister, father, grandfather, grandmother, uncle, son, daughter etc etc
2) In-law mahrams: FIL, MIL, SIL, stepfather etc etc. They remain mehram till the time woman is in Nikkah of that person.
PS: There is 3rd type too called RADA (or person who u have shared milk with). So you become mehram with someone if nursed by same woman (some other conditions apply though)
JazaakAllah khair :)
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No Sara it didnt happen.I was just discussing such a scenario with a friend and it led to an argument kinda situation.
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LP, there u have it. Take a day off today and celebrate. U got serious replay from me ! LOL
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I earned it 
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yee tu ziada he kuch free ho gaee …
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I wouldn't want to live with my inlaws but I think my SO would love it if I did but they are old so what would I do when they pass away?