Woman - around the globe from ages 25 - 40
Has the Cultures gone wild ? Have the Societies gone mad ?
what is causing this and who is responsible for this ???
Our parents
Our societies
Cultural traditions
Economic freedom
False sense of security
What is causing this bizarre phenomenon. Worst thing is we
are chasing the so called freedom and independence but in
reality it is creating havoc on the age old system which is - -
forcing men in brotherals & women in the age old profession.
Can any one explain what is the cure – or – cause or perhaps a remedy
My prediction by the end of year 2050 - - 70 % of men / women will be single
While i am writing a book on this .. perhaps future generations can be aware
i think ppl have become way too picky in choosing a spouse. one should reflect on themselves and their flaws rather then look at other ppls imperfections. No one is perfect and for those that are seeking a perfect partner will remain single for the rest of their lives.
I’m not sure about the situation in the States or Canada, but here in the UK I think it is a case of the majority of guys have gone back to Pakistan and married and brought their wives over.
The girls born in here want a husband who has also been brought up here (totally understandable!)… so now in the UK women are finding it hard to find a decent man to marry and the decent men that are here are allowed to be extra picky as there are more women to choose from.
I'm not sure about the situation in the States or Canada, but here in the UK I think it is a case of the majority of guys have gone back to Pakistan and married and brought their wives over.
The girls born in here want a husband who has also been brought up here (totally understandable!)... so now in the UK women are finding it hard to find a decent man to marry and the decent men that are here are allowed to be extra picky as there are more women to choose from.
hmm could be the case in the UK... but here in states....most of the guys raised here want a girl raised here as well and vice versa.
Also the other thing....more girls are going for professional degrees so they dont want to get married til they get accomplish that. In my opinion thats a big mistake...i think you should get married whenever the right person comes along...even if you are young or trying to establish your career/education. It's hard enough to find the right person...letting go of them (when u come across one)would be stupid.
I'm not sure about the situation in the States or Canada, but here in the UK I think it is a case of the majority of guys have gone back to Pakistan and married and brought their wives over.
The girls born in here want a husband who has also been brought up here (totally understandable!)... so now in the UK women are finding it hard to find a decent man to marry and the decent men that are here are allowed to be extra picky as there are more women to choose from.
Yeah i have friend who divorced her wife right after three months after coming to UK.
as for ur predictions, let’s wait and see.
i believe in being transparent.
if no one is worthy enough toget married to, and suffering is a given, than why marry???
it is not fair to the women and to the men.
& i am saying it without any egotistic ideas.
we need to reestablish trust first.
Divorce rates have shot up but marriage rates havent decreased...People still want to get married its just people have unhappier marriages...this is due to extra expectation due to previous experience etc and just not putting up with things that previous generations did...
A lot of the time divorce is a bad thing but at times it is good...like a woman that got beaten by her husband would be seen as a bad mother if she applied for a divorce years ago...and now its seen as acceptable...society has progressed and with that expectations and the definition have changed...
We just need to realise we cant achieve perfection...
Although it may be simplistic to say this, but I think since women have become more educated, marriage rates are have decreased. One, women have higher standards than before (he should have at least the same amount of education as me, he should make more than me, etc). Secondly, their pursual of education, and subsequently careers, makes them delay marriage, and many times, guys go back to the old country to find a wife instead. Also, since women are educated, they are capable of supporting themselves and are less fearful of getting a divorce.
I agree with you Angel Eyes, people have become extremely picky as well. There's a crazy pursuit for perfection nowadays. The first thing guys want to know is if the girl's "hot," and the girls are unable to move past things like baldness or chubbiness in a guy. Our mothers and grandmothers had absolutely no say in such matters whatsoever and were just thrust into their married lives, and made it work since they had no other choice. A divorce? You might as well be homeless or dead.
I agree with you that education has gone up and therefore girls get more choosing power but i do believe that people generally still want to get married...the stats agree with it...marriage isnt decreasing...they still want that big white wedding its just as you and Angel Eyes have correctly pointed out our standards are a lot higher and expectations are very hard to fulfil...we take more time over finding the right partner these days...
I'm not saying people don't want to get married, they totally do. But they've set themselves up for failure with overly high standards for marriage partners. So that when they are finally ready for marriage, they've either gotten too old (thanks to their infinite search for perfection) or they've gotten too stuck in their ways to be satisfied one person, flaws and all.
I also think that too much dating is unconstructive because people are getting used to breaking up at the first sign of trouble and not staying together for the long run. Although there's lots of fun in dating, there's no committment, no "for better or for worse."
QUOTE - Raatkirani - - " I also think that too much dating is unconstructive "
well said…
Well said - - Its the so called freedom give all of us a taste of never ending
pursuit of something better ?
What most girls n guyz dont realise that goodness and perfection comes
over time and most go out freely get what they want - - then why in the
world marry - why would one hold and preserve themselves for some one
special when the society says go out find that special one - - what starts
as a casual date casual rendezvous becomes a hunter n prey pursuit for
the rest of our lives - - until one day we realise its too late and we just
lost it - - Lost the time the desire the youth the patience and passion. Its
all gone and just like the west heading towads zero population growth.
And a surplus of single women n men. Mostly single women - its pathetic.
Any one hear the song… IN THE YEAR 2525 ..
Yes in the year 2525
if the man is still alive
and the women survive - -
Oh its a beautiful song. Perhaps story of things to come. - - - - - - - -
Raatkirani
I agree with you completely...dating isnt constructive at all...experience brings expectation...lol sometimes i wish i just met my first girl on my wedding day...no expectation...id be so easy to please cos i wouldnt know anything better...
Naughty, well you can always be "born again" so to speak. Toss all your expectations to the wind and when you do find a girl to marry, inshaAllah, be very patient with her and expect for a relationship to take its time to develop fully.
around the globe from ages 25 - 40
