I was told by my elders that Eid is for women and children, men need not apply i.e. get happy! At the time I was young (part of children) and paid no attention to it but now I look back and realize that day by day my Eid is going sour.
For example, no one gives me Eidi any more, no new clothes mainly because by the time the family gets done with buying their accessories there is hardly any budget or will left on my part, the Eid TV programs seem silly, and guests have started to become an annoyance rather than something to look forward to and play with.
This is not the same for my wife, she even still gets Eidi Its totally unfair.
It's not much different for some of us females either. It stops at wearing new clothes and that's about it.
The eidi rates have been stagnant for the last two decades. A $5/10/20 bill doesn't do much. Besides, I don't always get eidi either.
It's pretty much limited to visiting people or people coming over. Half of which I'm not even the least bit interested in socializing with.
Food ain't all that great/special either.
I suppose kids really get to enjoy their eid. They're far more excited wearing new clothes, getting eidi (that actually does something for them), and meeting people.
my younger siblings get it but I don’t, because they say i’ve grown up. And we don’t need any eidees now. Like WTF, you lot grow us up on giving eidees and getting us all excited over it and now taken it away from us.
And let’s not forget going to eachother’s house for hugging shugging and eid milan milaana…it’s more like a hasad karne waali event. it’s so freaking fake, I was better off being a kid, atleast i didn’t know how fake all this drama was
I am serious about making the say special for yourself.
Not every Eid can be filled with fun and games.
When I was in college and grad school, some years I couldn't come home. In college, I knew enough Muslim kids on campus to do something fun together. In grad school however, I didn't really know anyone, and brief conversations with acquaintances wasn't doing much for me. I went out and bought myself a new outfit and wore it :D
Why don't you get yourself a new "toy"? Clothes, gadgets, whatever. Treat yourself as well as your family. Make it a tradition that people get gifts for each other. Have the kids make something for mom and have her help them make something for you. And you two can get things (big or small, whatever) for each other.
I do think you need to remain active. It's not fair that the same person always has to host the Eid parties, etc. My mother usually does that. The years when she's tired and busy, everyone complains that Eid was boring, but they rarely think to do anything themselves. Create activities, make the day special for yourself. Treat yourself and your family and friends.
You know what i hate? I get all nutz over what I’m wearing, even though i am going absolutely NO WHERE and nobody is coming over either and it doesnt matter..but i still like to dress up, coz i think the ocasion deserves it
I never got eidi from my parents when i was young, and whatever i got from my relatives went to ammi instantly.. i don't know why i wasn't allowed to keep it.. maybe they were worried kay i will start a bad habit of 'fazool kharchi' anyways.. now that i am older times are different .. still don't get any eidi. i really don't care about wearing anything fancy.. usually just buy myself a nice pair of pants and a nice shirt and wear that .. (also works great for future investment :))
then from last 4 yrs i have spent only 2 eids with my parents and its usually hectic and boring day.. nothing to do but to wait for chachas to come over at night and have dinner... i have tried so many times to ask them to lets go out somewhere and eat outside .. try something different lekin suggestion goes to waste..
Its totally unfair.
my younger siblings get it but I don’t, because they say i’ve grown up. And we don’t need any eidees now. Like WTF, you lot grow us up on giving eidees and getting us all excited over it and now 
taken it away from us.
im about to start wearing a niqaab, sheesh
