where have all the men gone?

[inspiron]

@lafuriaroja

I don’t think the OP meant to be materialistic, i think she means someone who’s just in a good position and has the potential to do better, if not neccessarily now. I don’t think theres anything wrong with that, even if I intend to work myself and make a lot more money I want someone who’s equally matched to me in terms of ambition, education, etc. My husband and I earn approx the same (him a little bit more) and we do ok, but I know how much harder it would be for us if he or I were earning significantly less, the two incomes help us with the things we need. And we’re not particularly materialstic at all, I shop for stuff for myself once a year max, wear my work clothes till they’re falling to pieces and keep a pretty tight budget. I think everyone wants a stable life and to live a lifestyle they’re accustomed to (assuming you’re not loaded and get everything you want).

As for where all these guys are inspiron…I think thats just a matter of luck. I know a lot of non desis too who don’t find their significant other in university and then they have to spend a lot of effort once they start working in socialising and meeting people. To increase your chances of finding someone you can join some pakistani or muslim groups in your uni, community etc. Try to network, socialise as much as you can and this way you’ll meet more people and hopefully a potential husband or someone who can lead you to a potential husband.

yes you totally get where im coming from! this is what i meant to say…

I think i will try and start socialising as much as i can at uni now and see where things go.

My parents are very social and open minded im just wondering why they arent having much luck either!!

Amor Amor…why would you keep your salary a secret from your husband? and i have couple of friends who are pharmacist guys married to doctor girls…and im much closer friends with the guys and trust me they have an inferiority complex about it…about not being the provider and not being able to look after their wives…they feel demascualanised.

And call me old fashioned but i do want to husband to be able to look after the whole family when i stop working to look after the children and protect us, i dont want to be his boss or his proivder.