Re: Where do you draw the ___?
In the Quran Allah (Swt) calls human to be Jahil (illiterate), Zalim (cruel), impatient, thankless…etc. (Except for the Prophets who are pure of all sins). So definitelty you and me can’t conclude on our own any strategy for ourselves. We need divine guidance in every aspect of life, for which prophets are sent. Also, our life in this world is too short and unpredictable to first experience everything ourselves and then decide the line between the right and wrong. Man needs a guide, whose words and actions help him through every difficulty in life, to be able to make the right decision. We are lucky to have the example of our Prophet (saw) and Suhabas to look up to and follow their foot steps. In short the suhabas moto was:
Do good, encourage others to do good (politely and sincerely). Don’t do wrong, allow others to stop you from doing wrong (even if they are rude & even if they do it harshly). Always discourage bad deeds (through wisdom, by preserving the self respect of the sinner) and always allow others to encourage you to do good, even if they do it by degrading you. My dignity doesn’t matter. Others dignity and grace should matter to me. Guidance of everyone matters but it should start from myself.
**Hazrat Umar (r.a) said: My friend is not the one who tells me my good qualities, but the one who tells me my faults and the flaws in my character. **
Yes, but how much of this do you apply to your real life, around your friends, your family, strangers etc. I mean practically, keeping all the above in mind what can you absolutely not do or tolerate from others. I am sure your friends or family members do wrong things sometimes, how much do you interfere at that time.