I moved my kids in their room around 18 mnths and they sleep in their rooms now.:)
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Ok so its fine to keep them with you for a good year and a half... I thought you had to move them out within months and i hated the thought of that :( hehe
I put my baby with me in same bed its easy for breastfeeding.In the early months ur baby really needs u think she or he is wd u for nine months and just whn they born u put them alone some babies feel scared but not all but after 8 months now she is in her own bed but in same room.
Ok so its fine to keep them with you for a good year and a half... I thought you had to move them out within months and i hated the thought of that :( hehe
You dont HAVE to do anything that othersl say. Its your own personal choice and if it makes you happy to have your baby sleep next to you, do just that. Its not a bad thing to have your baby in your bed or in his room if it feels right to you. I was the one who wanted baby to sleep in her room but after a while i just gave up. Atleast this way i get some sleep at night. Its all about what is important to you.
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I only ask because I'm the only child so Ive not really been around alot of kids in the family either to know what the norm is. Hubs said he slept with his mum till he was 3... har har har!
On the other hand I was moved along into my own room around 8 months! Its good to get an idea of what the norm is!
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I am happy to say I got the baby to sleep in her crib, next to my bed side. Hurra!
Now I have space .. she does wake up 3 times for he feed which is OK .. I then put her back.
Now I hope I have not jinxed myself.
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^:k:
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Hubby says he will sleep in the guestroom for the first few weeks at least so that I can work on some sort of a 'routine'. I will keep the baby next to me in a seperate crib insh'allah.
I'm too scared to have the baby sleep next to me cuz I don't think I'll be able to sleep myself (fear of crushing the baby) :-/
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its all trial and error shinoo..what works one day wont the other. no advice is enough when u have the baby... just when u think you have it, they go and do somethign diff.. so just take it a day at a time adn breathe.. its really difficult with a newborn and the first 3 months. hell my son is a yr old and man the guessing game is still there. hehe.
its all gonna bge good inshallah.
we thought hsuband would sleep somehwere else and i with the baby alone so his sleep wouldnt get disturbed.. haha.. never worked cuz he was always at the other end going.. i wonder what baby and mommy are doing :D daddies just get used to the waking ups and then soon forget.. ask my hsuband now and he will say.. oh our son never got up at nights.. lol
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oh and i would get depressed at the mere though of sleepinga lone with teh baby . yikes. even now. its such a lonley feeling. :o
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my son slept in his bassinet and in our bed, he now sleeps in his cot in our room but will wake up in the night to sleep with his Baba in our bed and he is almost 2.
i'm a bit worried with the new baby due how he will react to the sleeping arrangements and my getting up to give night feeds. hubby won't sleep in the other room unless absolutely necessary.
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i would inshallah have baby with me in her cot/crib next to me...NEVER EVER sleep the baby with you in your own bed...dangerous....NEVER EVER.PLEASE DONT DO THIS.
Initially she slept in our room with the crib next to our bed and one railing down. We eventually moved her crib to her room and she naps their regularly now. BUT unfortuantely she still wakes up several times a night so after experimenting different things, we bring her in our bed next to me when she wakes up in the middle of the night while hubs sleeps on the floor. This is the only way i am getting some sleep since it ws getting to be really exhausting to wake up every 2 hours and console her by going in her room. So do what works best for you but initially i think its better to keep the baby not too far from you so you can feed while laying down if need be. And i would suggest dont do fixed feedings at night. Follow your baby's cue. If he/she wakes up to eat, feed them but dont wake them up to feed.
how old is your baby? do you keep a baby monitor, out of interest?
mashallah, my neice sleeps with her parents. my sis and bro-in-law love it. mashallah, to this day they have never complained about losing sleep, or needing more space on the bed or facing privacy problems. they have a massive bed just for this purpose as well so they all sleep comfortably. my neice is very confident and happy, mashallah. my nephew moved into his own bed when he was around 4 years old but his small bed was still in his parents room. this was their choice and they thought he was too young to be sleeping alone in his own room. when he was around 6 he moved into his own room. even then my sis and bro-in-law check on him regularly.
one of my friends moved her 3 week old son into his own room. everyone is different but personally, i found this really disturbing. i just thought 3 week old baby was too young to be sleeping all alone in his own room. what if the baby vomited milk during the night, how would you know? what if his colic started and you slept late and couldn't get yourself to get up and help him? what if the baby gets frightened and needs a cuddle, but you're too tired to get up and go into baby's room at 3am? but my friend says she needs her space and privacy, which is fair enough as its her choice and she knows best for her child.
during the last 6 years, my cousin’s two babies died due to cot death. she went through so much pain. no one could explain the reasons why her baby's died and the police were so nasty and bullied her as they suspected her. Of course she was cleared as she hadn’t done anything. but one midwife told her it was because the babies were sleeping alone in their own room. they were just a few weeks old as well. my cousin had a baby last year and now she will be 1 years old, mashallah. she has slept in her parents bed since birth, mashallah. my cousin thinks her baby has survived because she kept her with her.
my husband and i have decided that when our baby comes, inshallah we will keep baby with us. we will buy a bigger queen-sized bed in a few months for this purpose too.
of course each parent knows best for their child.