Where am I wrong???

Gaia · July 29, 2011, 7:09pm

Re: Where am I wrong???

I have a situation. Actually not even a situation, I just need opinions. I have a pretty happy marriage. Husband does well, makes good money. I don’t have to work. We have a beautiful 4 month old baby. No in-laws ka chakkar. No sariyal saas or nand but we both fight a lot over small issues every now and then. He is a typical mama’s boy. What mama said is always right. His parents’ approach is to be always there for the kids and umm somewhat interfere in their lives. They tell us all the time what to do. They tell their kids all the time what to do and how to deal with things. His mom tells me all the time beta aisa nahi aisa karo. Although she is nice but I don’t agree that you need to always give your opinion and tell people how things should be done. My parents are totally opposite. They hardly tell my SIL what she needs to do. So yes, my brother and my SIL does somewhat take advantage of my parents. Now my husband is always torturing with me by saying how your parents do it all wrong and that’s why people take advantage of them. Meri maa ki tarhan hitler hoon to sab teekh rehtay hain. I don’t like that being said to me all the time. I HATE IT. He says it in a way that it hurts me.

He goes on to say oh larki ke maa baap is never the guy’s responsibility and that guy’s parents are everything and that the girl should be nice to them and cook, clean etc for them to have a good relationship with the husband. He hasn’t done anything yet but I feel when time comes where I have to take care of my parents, he will simply refuse with the kind of attitude he has. And like I said, I HATE that being said all the time.

My mom came to take care of me and my baby when I gave birth. I had a very very very tough pregnancy. I was very close to abort my child because of the development defect doctors found in him at my scan. It was a major thing for me. I went into depression. I use to cry all the time and pray to Allah to give my baby a healthy life. My mom came at my delivery and really took care of my baby. I did nothing. She used to stay up all night with my new born to take care of his need so I can get some rest. Now my husband is always telling me, why did your mother do all of this.. Yeh saray kaam to tum bhi kar sakhti theen… maar to nahi rahi theen. I was in soooooo much pain, not just physically but emotionally too. My baby was born fine AH but the whole ordeal was way too much and I needed my mom’s help. So rather then saying thanks to my mother for taking care of us for a whole month, she cooked, cleaned, took care of my baby he says koi bara kaam nahi kia…. Tum bhi kar sakhti theen, you were okay to do all that… LIKE WTH!

So tell me guys… am I wrong arguing with my husband on all these things? More than anything, it hurts me to listen to these things.

**So ask him where he pulled this out from, because it smells a little.
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