Re: When your kids talk too much...
Oh god, am I glad someone opened this topic or what . My daughter talks and talks and talks.... I repeatedly have to tell her chup kar jao, which I ofcourse feel bad for afterwards.
It's not that she makes up stuff, she just tells things in soooooooo much detail and when I have other things on my mind it gets kinda hard to concentrate.
Oh god, am I glad someone opened this topic or what . My daughter talks and talks and talks.... I repeatedly have to tell her chup kar jao, which I ofcourse feel bad for afterwards.
It's not that she makes up stuff, she just tells things in soooooooo much detail and when I have other things on my mind it gets kinda hard to concentrate.
That's extremely wrong thing sajal.
Never ever say chup karo to those kids that way you are stoping her to being genius or to become genius.
Stop saying chup karo. That would leave a very bad impression on her mind.
I know its very hard. Think that way that you have to give a genius to the society and for yourself to.
Wheneve she talks alot. Ask some question that is hard for her. That will leave her thingking.
Bring games computer games or psp or game boy or nintendo more than her age.
If you can't concentrate on her just show her that you are listening to her and keep concentrating on your work if that is more serious. But don't let her know that you aren't listening.
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Saying me cute. Aww thank you.
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Thank you all not just for your postive support but also for telling me that mine isn't a unique case!
X2, glad to hear that the Conans are part of the group :D
Gr8heera, aap ka bohot shukriya for all the great advice!
Thank you all not just for your postive support but also for telling me that mine isn't a unique case!
X2, glad to hear that the Conans are part of the group :D
Gr8heera, aap ka bohot shukriya for all the great advice!
You are welcome sis.
Abhi to bohat advice under dimagh min uchaal rahain hain bahar nikalnay ko aap pooch kar to daikhain.
Thapthapaing my peeth myself. Akhir bullies say pala par chuka hai wo bhi arbi bullies and with language problem I delt and won Alhamdolillah. Many gories ran away maidan chor kay. lol
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Niki, there is NOTHING wrong with being 'too creative' In fact, you should be lucky she isnt relying on her PSP, ipod, DS lite and whathaveyou to feed her imagination. She is using her God given brain and that is definately something to celebrate in this day and age. I have 30 children who cannot for the life of them use their imaginations and its saddens me...a lot.
Its good to talk. Bob Hoskins said so.
My cousins mother tells me I laugh too much and I shouldn't as girls are not supposed to laugh too much. It's not nice.
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How do you guys get your kids to keep quiet about things that you dont want other families to know? I remember anytime the parents would have a fight or something, or if we got in trouble at home, or if one of the kids got a beating or something.... me the big blabber mouth went and told my cousins EVERYTHINGGGG even after being given explicit direction not to. They told their parents, things got back to my parents, and lets just say jootiyaan would be flying quite often in my direction. Looking back on it now, I feel embarassed for telling people things they really had no business knowing.
Oh, and another thing... anytime my parents would decide to give us a treat and tell us something like Saturday we're gonna give you guys a reward for all the hard schoolwork you've been doing, were gonna go to the movies and chuck e cheese afterwards... the very first thing I'd do is go and invite my other 5 cousins and my parents would get soooooo furious with me... especially cuz my chachoo and chachi were always taking stuff and sending their kids with us and never giving in return.. you know family politics type stuff...
So, yeah... anyone else have the same problem? And how do you teach your kids that whatever they hear at home, stays home?
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Riya, I go through this with my 6 year old too. She's always excited about possibilities, so if she overhears that we are planning a vacation, oh my god does she get after us for details and then passes that on to everyone. She also has a tendency to discuss family issues outside. So I consulted her preschool teacher once, and this is what we did that really works well.
We try not to have any serious discussions in front of kids but sometimes it's not possible to keep some information away, so we've come up with this term "family secret" which means that only the 4 of us are supposed to know that. She loves to be part of a family secret because she feels big and special, and since then, she never says anything to anyone regarding personal matters. But I do have to remind her that it's a family secret. I don't want to teach her to lie or think that we are hypocrites of some sort, but she does need to realize that some things need to stay within the family.
How do you guys get your kids to keep quiet about things that you dont want other families to know? I remember anytime the parents would have a fight or something, or if we got in trouble at home, or if one of the kids got a beating or something.... me the big blabber mouth went and told my cousins EVERYTHINGGGG even after being given explicit direction not to. They told their parents, things got back to my parents, and lets just say jootiyaan would be flying quite often in my direction. Looking back on it now, I feel embarassed for telling people things they really had no business knowing.
Oh, and another thing... anytime my parents would decide to give us a treat and tell us something like Saturday we're gonna give you guys a reward for all the hard schoolwork you've been doing, were gonna go to the movies and chuck e cheese afterwards... the very first thing I'd do is go and invite my other 5 cousins and my parents would get soooooo furious with me... especially cuz my chachoo and chachi were always taking stuff and sending their kids with us and never giving in return.. you know family politics type stuff...
So, yeah... anyone else have the same problem? And how do you teach your kids that whatever they hear at home, stays home?
Ha ha ha. I can picture jootiaan urtay huway ana. lol.
Main kabhi ghar ki baat kabhi kisi ko naheen batai. Mujhay to such bolnay pay maar para karti thi. lol
Koi mujhay koi apni lai huwi cheez dikhata aur mujh say poochta kaisi lagi. Mujhay achchi naheen lugti thi to saaf kah deti thi achchi naheen lagi. Baad main daant aur chantay partay thay.
Phir main sochti thi mujh say poocha main nain such bola to maar kioon pari. Mar partay waqt bola jata tha us nain itni khushi say tumhain apni cheez dikhai tum kah deteen haan achchi lagi. Tum nain kah dia achchi naheen lagi ussay bura laga us nain kitnay shauq say dikhaya tha tumhain.
Chantay khanay kay baad sochti thi kay main nain ghalat kia such bol kay. Phir main sochti thi hamaisha kay mujhay karna kia chahyay tha kisi ki khushi kay liaay jhoot ya apni khushi kay liay such. Us waqt to pata bhi naheen tha kay such bolna chahyay aur jhoot bolna gunah hai. lol
Hamaisha main nain subh bolnay pay dant aur maar khai hai per jaan bachaanay ko bhi kabhi jhoot naheen bola. Sub jhoot bol kar buch jatay thay aur main apna qusoor bhi bata kar maar kha leti thi. lol
As Nik said that don't talk infront of kids.
As she said tell your kid that don't tell any of our own secrets to other. Keep telling them what or what kind of things you can share and what kind of thing you can't share.
Like mama, papa ki koi baat kisi ko naheen batani. Koi jhagra ho to wo naheen batana agar mama, papa main. Mama aur papa kia kartay hain jhagray main ya ghar kay maamlay main wo naheen batana. Keep tellng kia bata saktay hain aur kia naheen.
Aap apni cheezon kay baray main bata saktay hain khilonon, khail aur kahanion ko bata saktay hain per ghar ki kahanion ka naheen.
Just keep telling them. Agar aap nain koi baat chupanay ki koshish ki buchchon say laikin agar unhain pata chal gai to unko samjhana hai kay yay baat kisi ko naheen batana yay hamara secret hai as Nik said Family secret.
You may say that we are friend not only friend but best friend and best friends keep their secrets to each other and don't tell to anyone.
Main to kahti hoon har maan ko apni beti kay zahan main buchpun say yay baat bitha deni chahyay kay main aap ki best friend hoon aur mujhs say achchi best friend aap ki koi naheen ho sakti is liaay hamaisha apni her baat aur her secret mujh say share kijaay ga. Agar ghussa honay wali baat bhi ho gi to main ghussa naheen karoon gi kabhi bhi daryaay ga naheen. Kabhi koi ghalti bhi ho jaay to mujhay bataiaay ga takaay main aap ko sahi bata sakoon kay kia khalat hai aur kia sahi aur issay sahi kaisay kia ja sakta hai.
Maanon ko apni betion ko khud say dara kar bhi naheen rakhna chahyay kay wo kabhi apni koi baat share karnay main darain. Walid ko kahain kay wo sakht rawaiaa rakhain aur khud dostana.
Larkioon pay to khaas tor say maan ko tawwaajja aur ahmiaat dena chahyay aik to wo waqti tohfa hotay hain parents kay liaay aur maan ko dost hona larkioon kay liaay bohat faidaymund hota hai.
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Theres a popular saying in the US...
You spend the first two years of a child's life teaching them to walk and talk. Then you spend the next 18 telling them to sit down and shut up.
Theres a popular saying in the US...
You spend the first two years of a child's life teaching them to walk and talk. Then you spend the next 18 telling them to sit down and shut up.
LOL
Right.
Theres a popular saying in the US...
You spend the first two years of a child's life teaching them to walk and talk. Then you spend the next 18 telling them to sit down and shut up.
Funny and true!
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My daughter is so talkative and she doesn't forget what you told her. And she's bossy!!!
I am hoping it's a phase!
