i have a friend at college who is a muslim but she doesn’t follow some of the restriction ALLATHALA has created in between males and females.
she is a grownup person and she knows what is right and wrong.
what should i do in that case? there is no point for me to point out the things that she is doing wrong because she is very well aware of it.
does it make me gunnah gaar that i am not stopping her? or saything anything about it to her? and continuing my friendship with her?
she is a very close friend, i can’t stop being friend with her, but does islam says that i should stop talking to her because of what she is doing?
please reply to this post, i am very upset about all this.
Hang in there and wait for things to turn more favourable. You might be the source of guidance destined for her. And it goes without saying that you do need to strongly disassociate with all the 'wrong' acts that she may be committing.
Hang in there and wait for things to turn more favourable. You might be the source of guidance destined for her. And it goes without saying that you do need to strongly disassociate with all the 'wrong' acts that she may be committing.
well i am afraid that she will be hesitant in being friend with me if we discuss these issues because i am totally against it and she is doing it even when she knows she is wrong.
all i am wondering about is that according to islam do i continue my friendship with her? she is not effecting me ALHAMDULILAH i am not a 12 year old who go bad seeing their friends, but i am just afraid of ALLAHTALA i don't want to be accused on day of judgement of being a friend with someone who doesn non-islamic deeds.
i will really appriciate if someone clear up my confusion, i am really stressed about all this.
Hang in there and wait for things to turn more favourable. You might be the source of guidance destined for her. And it goes without saying that you do need to strongly disassociate with all the 'wrong' acts that she may be committing.
How can Allah (swt) hold you accountable for actions not committed by you; nor supported, facilitated or motivated by you?
There is a difference between being a friend, and just being friendly. My suggestion is; don't be friends with her but continue to be friendly. If she has slightest of light within her then she will come right one day and you might get a chance to play a role in this and thus get a lot of sawab and ajar. This mission is a real Jihad for you.
How can Allah (swt) hold you accountable for actions not committed by you; nor supported, facilitated or motivated by you?
you are actually right :) thanks. actually i afraid of being accountable for actions that i should have taken such as stop being friend with her or stop her from doing those things. but i figured that since she knows she is wrong what i say wouldn't make a different.
There is a difference between being a friend, and just being friendly. My suggestion is; don't be friends with her but continue to be friendly. If she has slightest of light within her then she will come right one day and you might get a chance to play a role in this and thus get a lot of sawab and ajar. This mission is a real Jihad for you.
she has been my best friends for a very long time. it would be very difficult for me to just stay friendly with her. but as you said it is like jihad for me. i really wish and pray that ALLAHTALA show her the right path.
Qeyamat ke din insan un logon ke sath uthaya jaye ga jis say wo muhabbat rakhta hai/ya jis ke sath duniya mei dost tha.
i read this hadeeth and sorry i am not good with giving refferences.
but i have come to believe that people who we hang out with do affect us/our reputation.People are generally judgemental and they mistake us with being involved in similar activites as of our friends.I wont tell you to break ur friendship with her because its impossible but if u are good friend you must have some influence on her because thats what friends are for.They tell you off for ur mistakes.Although shes a mature person you should talk to her about this certain issue and how she should correct herself.God will ask u on that day of judgement ke why didnt u stop them when you saw something bad being done.Although your friend is responsible for her actions but you can make some effort to stop her.
Find something that she disagrees with ... then give an example to her ...
"If I have a friend he/she does this really bad thing, but I can't tell him/her out of fear that the advice will backfire and he/she will stop being my friend ... what should I do?"
Ask her the very same question you have asked us and she herself will tell you the answer ...