Before marriage, what did you do and how did either of you act with each other? On a scale of 1-10, how nervous were you and he?
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Jab vi met, oll moi SOs and I were khujaeeng here n there. But apnay apnay na. Not eik dusray ke. Soo mach konphuzon
Wut do i do
meening, kya karen control nai hota
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:k: Congrats, your post was the first that I couldn’t understand even a word.
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It was Black Friday 1958, I was in line outside the Apple store waiting to get inside to buy the latest iphone. That’s when I saw this olive skinned beauty, 5’7 long brown hair hazel eyes 36-24-36, she was in yoga pants and wearing a choker and looked at me and I looked at her and she winked and then I woke up and realized It was a dream.
Moral of the story: Don’t do weed.
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I saw marriage as a chore at the time. My mind was overwhelmed with operational details such as cost, remaining vacation, transportation, visa issues, guest lists, food, venue, place to stay, etc. even before meeting her and her family for the first time. I was not nervous at all but was worried that she may doubt my morals. First we exchanged salam, then we talked a bit about ourselves for two minutes max and then neither of us had anything more to say. Also I thought, if I talked more she will think, “kitna chaalu larka hai !” 
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Before marriage…
I stalked him like a stealthy feline in a dimly lit parking lot. It was a crisp autumn night with the faint tune of the Pink Panther song playing in the background. An intricate dance ensued of me twinkle-toeing my way between the parked cars and ducking behind the concrete pillars each time he turned with a backward glance over his shoulder. Just as he was about to get into his car, I ever-so-lightly tapped him on his shoulder. He turned around. I flashed him my killer, Mac-Ruby-Woo smile. But what really held his attention for that extra, almost-fatal, millisecond was the lipstick smudge on my front teeth. It’s my secret weapon. I make certain to never wipe it off; tissues and vanity be damned! His bewilderment provided me with just enough time for me to reign down on him hard with my club. That’s right! I clubbed him. Not once, but twice. I wouldn’t do it a third time, for my grandmother had always warned that, “Bad luck comes in the threes.” And I needed him to live. A dead groom just wouldn’t do! It wouldn’t have been proper. He fell to the ground, unconscious. I knelt down beside him, placing my ear upon his chest. To my relief, I could hear his heart beating, but I felt no breath against my cheek. No rise and fall of his chest. For a brief moment, I contemplated giving him CPR. But then I decided that romantic stuff should be saved for after the nikkah 
I’d say he was a “1” on the nervousness scale. He just didn’t have the time to feel any kind of emotion.
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Third string and RV…
I just need queer to contribute to make the comedic trio complete
Hopefully, you guys are saying a lot more after marriage 
Was she nervous even if you weren’t?
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They had iphones in 1958??!!?
Oh, wait. That’s the weed talking. Nevahmind!
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She wasn’t nervous either. I wish I was not so overwhelmed with responsibilities at the time and had spent more time to get to know her before marriage.
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But wasn’t the marriage already finalized by then by both families or were you still deciding? If you could do that one moment over again, what would you have talked about with her to get to know the real her?
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^^^I was still deciding when we 1st met. Socio-economic status/attractiveness is important and can be determined pretty quickly. The time taking part would be to determine her personality. And to do that I’ll listen to her questions carefully. Type and order of questions a person asks tells us about their cognition. For example, if after telling her about my neighbour’s stupid children, her first question is about their race then that is a sign of something. Same goes for snobbish remarks. If that happens repeatedly, it’ll make me wonder.
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I was a bit good-kind-of nervous. He was in a different city, so we had been talking for 3 months before we met. He didn’t appear to be nervous at the time. We already had a lot of comfort by the time we met. But I was quiet, which is what I tend to do (did?) on first dates. It was his deep, insightful questions and absolutely genuine presence that bowled me over. My profession has turned me into the person who takes a lot of interest in others and asks rather deep questions. This guy (now husband) overdid me. Absolutely no one in my life has been like him, so there I was - beyond impressed.
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Don’t you develop a preconceived idea of the person when you talk only on the phone and message each other for such a long time?
Nothing ever comes close to being in front of the person and feeling all the nice along with the awkward moments.
I’m curious, what kind of questions/discussion was it that so completely impressed you? Is he still the same way or was it only that first date when you have to make a good first impression and we all sort put on a mask and eventually come out of our shells.
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Psychiatrist?
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^^^Beautiful shair in footer.
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That’s true. Meeting in person is definitely better. You can definitely have preconceived notions when there is little information available, so you have to stay aware of the conclusions you are drawing and see if they hold up in person.
They were deep, insightful questions indicative of the kind of person who thinks intelligently and deeply. Thankfully it wasn’t a mask!
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Silly question but seeing that he’s a pretty sophisticated guy, what did you wear? I just don’t know how to approach this being traditionally raised, I’ve never dated. How does it even work.
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Can you give examples of the kind of questions you are referring to?
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