It is a general question. If you have been helping a person financially or any other way without letting him know, and that person once publically de-grades you, abuses you or makes you very angry in any way. Would you ever let him know about the favours you have been doing all these years to him or leave it to your God.
It is not that I have faced any such situation, just wanted to know your honest opinion. 
Yes, it depends upon the situation, so let us know about that as well.
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hmmmmm we are asked to give in a way that the lefthand does not know what the right hand gave..
it would be very noble of somoene to take abuse from someone he has been secretly supporting and not tell them.
I suppose one can talk to the person in private, but while you may think that would solve the issue, it may just make the person react even worse. I mean if the person is a real jerk theymay just make that an issue..something like "oh so now you own me" and then if you get fed up and want to stop supporting that person they may degrade you further by saying stuff like oh what a helper, thought he owned me, and then decided to walk away when i would not act in the way he wanted etc.
I would not bring it up but if the person is just being a real jackass, you can always find other deserving people.
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^ Quite realistic thinking. Nice sharing :)
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i suppose it would depend on whether the other person was older/younger, was familly, had a point from his/her prospective. public abuse for some people would be too much (eg ultra respect conscious proffesionals/elders)
also your vision of the future comes into it, are you ready to drop this person (deny respect) or take charge of the situation for good. sometimes time is a great healer, a few days later everything could be sorted:)
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the best thing would be letting it go, and keep helping as you were, IF you are helping him for Allah. let him know if you want to do it for fame.
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^ Well said, when the intentions are for Allah (swt), than why even consider other options. I agree.
@Vroom. Hmm...nice sharing, helped me in looking at the issue from different perspectives.
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Depends on the reason why the person would curse or abuse me to begin with. If he was making accusations or if there was some misunderstanding I may let him know just to clear my name. The tough decision would be if I'd continue to support him/her after that or not.