Re: When you are helpless (esp. in this country)
generalizations galore!
The truth remains that it is difficult for either spouse to look after the other if he/she has a professional job. I was recently in the hospital and later at home after a surgical procedure and even though my wife tried her best to be by my side whenever she could, I didn't expect her to inconvenience herself or place undue burden on her to look after me. Other than leaving work early on two days to take me to the doctor, I was pretty much on my own for the three weeks that I was recovering. Some family members dropped by and stayed over to help out during the first week, and that was a blessing!
Not all men are selfish and not all women are selfless. Sometimes, you just can't help it. It really depends on your situation, work commitments, and flexibility possible at the workplace.