Re: When would u like to have baby aftr marriage?
atleast 3 years...
Re: When would u like to have baby aftr marriage?
Personally i would like to spent some years with my better half saying no no to child. I can't afford to lose her attention.
Sorry but it really made me laugh:D , itni insecurity becharay aik chotay se bachay ki wajah se????mard bano yaar!!!
Personally, i would wait for 2 years and i think that's enough time to have fun, travel around etc etc and if it's anything more than 2 years, your parents will start wondering k "hamara bacha is qabil hai bhi k nahi":p
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Exactly, the idea behind waiting is not only negligence but also understanding your partner. Knowing him/her or even dating before marriage is different than spending time togather after marriage. your bound to observe new dimensions, behaviours and expections, its not neecssary that your fiance/finacee or lover tunrs out the why they where before marriage similarly speding few hours togather is totally different than spending virtually all day!
first few years are the most exciting ones but testing aswell. Divorce rates are very high in young birds. Trust, friendship and flexibility (unfortunately many of us lack) are the key factors atleast to me.
I would proud to be a father and would love my better half for that favour but first let us be lovers coz i don’t like sleeping with strangers :blush;
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Han ji. Insan khud to kuch karta nahi bas Allah oopar se bachay detay jatay hain aur hum lete jatay hain. Humari to ghalti hi nahi hai. It’s true that bachay are Allah ki huge ne’mat lekin woh bhi soch samajh ke accept karni chahiye na. Pehlay hi dunya pe thori ne’matain hain Allah ki jinhain hum violate kartay hain! uff…
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lolz
yaar, this insecurity is not bcoz of becha but bechay ki maaN :tary1: … she wont be doing justice to me na :halo:
kia? oh leave it man, i dont listen to others, let them think i am not Qabil 
I care a damn!!!
Re: When would u like to have baby aftr marriage?
2 years.
In my family, i have seen my cousins who have had their kids right after 10 months of marriage and then the next one after another 10 months. Itni bhi kia jaldi hai!
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Practise makes everything perfect. The more you practise, better it will be.
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It all depends.. different people have different thinking and sometimes family pressure is there. We all like to set timelines for our future but you never know what happens.. Personally, I am ready when she is ready.. coz come to think of it my wife is the one who has to be ready to have a child spend 9 months in pregnant and all I have to do is to be there to support her and make sure that she is comfortable.. so yeah my part is VERY easy as compared to hers to i think its fair to say it should be HER call rather than MINE... just my 2 cents.
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i would like 2 wait a few years..
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looks like they got bored after a while..
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Damnit how did u get so nice n can u giv watever u hav to the other desi guys ?? 
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Exactly and even lost sense of birth control
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lol
issay ghaltii nai bulkay urf-e-aam main ‘Pyaar’ kaha jata hai 
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naina wali did you ever ask them why?!?!?! I DID 
If they had kids after nine months it was because they were pressured by their in laws but they did spend a quality time and as they say, a baby increases love and respect b/w husband and wife.. now as far as the gap between kids is concerned, its because they wanted to collaborate the diaper time, so they wanted to have kids all together thus not having a huge age gap and also be done with the responsibility of the sleepless night/wet diapers. etc. after every 5 years where you are again at the point where you started.. now I think that was very sensible! :-p
PS. don;t you love being khala of so many little kiddoss…I do.. they are just so adorable and add ronaq to our family.. Thanks to our cousins 
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Death can come at anytime and to anyone…wouldn’t you want your kids to see their father/mother/grandparents/cousins? If you wait…the loss of a family member is possible. Unfortunately, any kids that I will have will never meet their dada because he died in Jan..1 yr after my marriage.
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^ sorry to hear that!
we cannot spend our lives on assumption or fears. What if have 4 kids in 4 years to make grandparents feel better but whose gonna take care of them.. whose gonna give eduction, whose gonna teach them manners and all ....... a single mother cannot handle 4 infants at a time... there should be approprite gap between each pregnancy!!
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I think 3 to 4 years is perfect. The couple needs that much time alone before starting a family and financially there will be a strong base by then to handle the responsibility of a child.
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Depends on a lot of things but when ever we are ready i guess.
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Well You have to give ur kids a better future,dont u?
You have to be financially strong and moeover i think husband and wife need sometime together. It’ll be better if they spend some years without any kids together, it will give em time to plan their future.
And what will happen when u get pregnant right after a month of marriage and some real close family member dies during ur pregnancy?
You never know whats going to happen, its all Allah’s will. This is no point of doing everything in a rush.