Re: When Women Emerge.
FOR SADIYAH
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As per your views, my thinking is clearly wrong and out of line, as I am all for attaining both worldly and Islamic education.
You know there has got to be a balance. You cannot suggest that worldly education is bad and useless for women and becoming an aalimah alone is the means to solving all problems when rearing children. A woman needs both worldly and Islamic education in order to raise her children properly. A mother lacking religious and/or worldly education will not be able to raise her kids in the best possible manner.
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You quoted what I wrote, but I think for some reason you did not read what it said. I was responding to those people who putting status of worldy knowledge **over **deeni knowledge.
Tell me where I said worldy knowledge is bad.
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Instead of jumping to conclusions and suggesting how some of us these days cannot understand the value of deen, you need to clearly understand that no one would suggest that a woman should not acquire religious knowledge and only needs to acquire post secondary education and somehow post secondary education alone would suffice. There has to be a balance between the post secondary and Islamic education. Neither one can be ignored or assumed to be useless.
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I did not 'assume' worldly knowledge to be useless. But do not agree with those who said *deeni knowledge *is useless.
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Like I mentioned earlier, I'm very much familiar with folks who follow this madhab or one similar to it. It is very easy for you to suggest 'women should stay at home, become aalimas and raise kids'. However, I'm not too sure how familiar you are with such females. **I personally have met men who adhere to your beliefs **and have met wives of such men. In most cases it's nothing pretty or encouraging. Besides, it just doesn't stop here (i.e. women should raise kids and look after home). Unfortunately, there's much more that is taught and followed due to which the lives of many women have become rather difficult.
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I have also met such couples, and they have further reiterated my stand on this issue. They themselves are aware of the fitnah of this world, and how people are not abiding to the Shariah. Please do not tell me you believe that is not true.
What exactly do you mean by "your beliefs". I share the beliefs of my Ullema-e-Haqq, and I am a Sunni - Hanafi.
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I believe all of us would agree that none of us go out to acquire post secondary education in an inappropriate manner. You must keep in mind that not everyone has exact same beliefs and not everyone is at a level where they can incorporate everything all at once.
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Thats what the article was trying to target at, to bring awareness to a certain level.
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Out of curiosity, are you familiar with females who have only acquired religious education and ignored post secondary education?
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Actually yes I am. A guppan on this very forum actually, who pmed me commending the work on this site :) And she is also receiving post secondary knowledge, in a Shariah Controlled way ofcourse.
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In contemporary world, it is vital that a woman attains post secondary education and not only religious education. Otherwise such women can end up with husbands who impose their own laws and rules on their wives by suggesting 'tum chup raho.... tumhain kya pata', or the wife is more often than not seen as someone inferior.
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Islam does not support that. You're trying to imply that this is how i treat women? And treat women inferior?
Thats your belief against **me. **Not my belief towards women.
Once Hazrat Umar(r.a) was discussing about regulation of Mehr in the Mosque. They were considering putting restrictions on the Mehr as some people discouraged young Muslim men from getting married. A lady from the back-seat of the Mosque objected, giving Qur’anic reference. She said none has the right to introduce this. " When Allah has not put restrictions on the Mehr then who are you to put restrictions to it." Hazrat Umar (r.a) humbly replied that the woman was right and Umar (r.a) wrong. In Political terminology, the women’s objection will be called objection to the breaking of the law of the constitution as Qur’an is the constitution for the Muslims.
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In addition, why do you feel that your 'ideology' happens to be the correct one and those with different views are somehow totally lost or misguided?
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I defend myself because my ideology is greatly misunderstood. Understand what I'm trying to say. Before you go nuts on me.
And as I have told adn studied myself, add on the experiences from different Muslimahs, it is the correct one. Most Fuqhi's, Ullemas, Those studying Hadith have furthered enlightenened me on this.
Since I know you live in Toronto, I can refer you to some.
Sh. Maulana Umar (jucanada.org)
Sh. Imam Bilal
Sh. Aslam
And I had the priviledge of meeting a very prominent scholar from South Africa, sh Ilyas. He was recently in Toronto, and you might have had a chance of meeting him or if not hearing his talks int he area.
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The rest of us have just as much right to participate and express our beliefs and opinions as you do. Try to take things into perspective rather than jumping on conclusions.
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Please Sadiyah, go over every single post and see who is jumping to conclusions.
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I honestly wonder how much exposure you've had with wives of such husbands or women in general. I personally know of an individual who made some suggestions and gave me plenty of naseeha on how I should not do co-op, only to find out that he wears a uniform to his workplace and has female co-workers. Somehow it is okay for men to mingle and to be in an environment where there are women, yet not alright for women to attend public educational institutions.
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It is not ok, and to base your life on one example of a certain someone is not correct either. My exposure to them is enough.
And I don't understand who you're trying to bring out by isolating me on the side, my ideologies come from the experiences of them all too.
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As for the Islamic schools, there are only a couple in Toronto that have good reputation. Remainder are all pretty kachra. They're only naam kay Islamic schools and that's about it. Yes, they may teach you a little about Islam; however, their worldly education is below the ministry standards. Also, it is normal for youth to develop interest in members of the opposite gender. However, only parents or good education could help one stay within limits and help one from crossing the set bounds. Islamic schools are filled with corrupt kids and horrible stories. Therefore, they aren't much better than public schools. Islamic schools are usually good for primary education and it's best to switch over to public educational institutions after.
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There is a difference between a madressa and an instituition where you go to read Sipara.
FOR SARA
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Listen to yourself.. in** one post you say that they shouldn't be taking their babies for a walk or even leave hte home to do the grocery shopping or any other household duties, but now you're saying that you suppor thtem becoming doctors, teachers etc? You're full of contradictions man**. How can a woman raise good decent kids by never stepping foot out her home?
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This is what you've been misunderstanding form the start. Listen to yourself.
There is a big difference in going out to get knowledge and education, and leaving for futile affairs.
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No one's denying that sexual harrassment and rape and abuse take place; however, as sahar said, if you **avoid **sending your daughters to school or get a job, then ur just instilling fear into them, that they should never step outside into the world. You're letting pervs and rapists win.
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I despise the western education system yes. And I would avoid my daughters going to high school or uni too, because I know what the system is like.
This however is different than me *depriving them **of their rights to knowledge, etc They have those rights, I believe as the article displays, **not safe for them in those environments. *
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You said you'd send your daughters (for sake of argument, i'm going to assume you meant to say sons as well :)) to madrassahs and that's perfectly fine, I would do the same for my kids, send them to a school where they learn ISlam and english and math adn science etc. However, once they leave that environment then what? There is no such thing as a purely Islamic country, and no matter how hard you try to keep out the bad influences, it's a fact of life that those things exist and you have to instill in your kids values that will help them deal with these evils. One example of the fitnah in ur original post was that girls will marry non-Muslims... well teach them why it's wrong, and to respect themselves and thier religion and theyll make good decisions, instead of forbidding them from going to high school or college/university.
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^ yes, It is an awareness to the fitnah. Sending them to madressah does instill value in them. It keeps them safe atleast.
You already said you would send it if you had the choice. So whats the problem then?
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It's the mother's responsibility to instill in her kids knowledge and values. Again, how can she do that if she has no knowledge of anything? According to you, if she can't even take her kids for a stroll in the park or do groceries or run errands outside the home, then how can she learn to be a doctor? That doesn't make any sense.
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refer a few paragraphs above.
be aware of the distinction between a stroll in the park, and acquiring knowledge.
WHAT PCG FAILED TO PROVIDE ME
(The following is what I believe btw sadiyah, as i've learned from my Ullema-e-Haqq. Incase you were wondering what my "beliefs" were.)
1. Aisha Bent Abu Baks
a. The first and foremost example is that of Aisha, the wife of the Prophet, who lived long after her husband’s death and provided great guidance to the first Muslim Community, even to the renowned sahabah and the Khalifah Rashidun. Her pupil, Urwah Ibn Azzubayr, testifies, “I did not see a greater scholar than Aishah in the learning of the Qur’an, obligatory duties, lawful and unlawful matters, poetry and literature, Arab history and genealogy.”
b. She had profound knowledge of medicine. Whenever foreign delegations came to the Prophet (Pbuh) and discussed various remedies for illnesses, she used to remember them. She was so wellversed in mathematics that important Sahabah used to consult her on the problems concerning “mirath” (inheritance) and the calculation of shares.
c. Aisha even guided Sahabah who sought her advice on different matters. They included the khalif “Umar” Abdullah Ibn Umar and Abu Hurairah. She was among the great huffaz (memorisers) of Ahadith. She narrated 2210 Ahadith in all.
d. Abu Musa Al-Ash’ari, himself a famous jurist and learned scholar, says “whenever we, companions of the Prophet Muhammad (Pbuh), encountered any difficulty in the matter of any Hadith we referred it to Aishah and found that she had definite knowledge about it.
e. 88 great scholars learnt from her and there were a large number of others. In short she was the scholar of scholars.
2. Saffiyah, wife of the Prophet (Pbuh)
Saifyyah, the wife of the Prophet (Pbuh), was also very learned in Fiqh. Imam an Nawawi says, “She was the most intellectual among learned women”.
3. Umm Salamah :Wife of the Prophet (Pbuh)
She too was a great scholar. The scholar, Ibn Hajar has given the names of at least 32 scholars who learnt Ahadith from her.
4. Faitmah Bint Qays:
Fatimah bint Qays was also a scholarly lady in the early days of Islam. Her learning was so deep that she discussed a juristic point with Umar and Aishah for a long time and they could not change or challenge her views. Imam an Nawwawi says, “She was one of those who emigrated in the early days and possessed great intellect and excellence.”
5. Umm Salim : Mother of Anas:
Umma Salim, the mother of the famous Sahabi Anas, was herself a highly respected Sahabiyah. Hafiz Ibn Hajar praises her, saying, “Her laudable qualities are too many to mention and she was very famous. Imam an-Nawawi calls her “an excellent scholar among the sahabiyah.”
The list of learned women of the early days of Islam shows that women were not kept illiterate and ignorant, but rather were fully encouraged to participate in the process of learning and scholarship. They also knew their rights and responsibilities very well. There were instances to show that some women even challenged great scholars of their times if they said something which was against the rights granted to women by the Qur’an the Sunnah.
6. Sayyida Nafisa : Grand daughter of Hussein
She was a great scholar. A large number of pupils came to her from different places to learn from her. Imam Shafii, founder of the Shafii school of Islamic law, was one of her illustrious pupils. One of the illustrious pupils of A’ishah was Umrah bint Abdur Rahman who was described by Ahmad Ibn Hambal in the following words.
“An eminent theologian and a great scholar. She was the most learned of all pupils in the Ahadith of Aishah.”
7. Umm Ad-Darda : Wife of Abu’d -Darda:
Umm-ad-Darda, the wife of the famous Sahabi Abu-ad-Darda, was so learned in the science of Hadith that Imam Al-Bukhari, one of the compilers of the Sihah as Sittah (the six canonical collections of Hadith) referred to her as an authority in his Sahih al sukhar.
8. Aisha Bint Sa’d Ibn Abi Waqqar:
She was the daughter of a great Sahabi, Sa’d Ibn Abi Waqqar. She was very learned in Islamic Sciences, to such an extent that Imam Malik, the famous jurist and scholar of Hadith, was her pupil.
Now Sadiyah, this is the appropiate way of living like a muslimah.
With the fitnah today, and the desperate need for an islamic state. You can realize what muslims have to go with today.
Before you all post, you guys need to understand the point.
I know how easy it is to jump to the conclusion from that article that women are being abused by extremists. But you need to approach everything objectively.
Jazakallah.
May Allah swt guide us all, and have mercy on us all.
Assalamalikum.
I must go massage my fingers now! =(