If you are with family or relatives in a restaurant or some other place you visit, and some music is going on with vulgar language, or a poster of woman with less clothes or some immoral commercial, or a couple getting too emotional…How do you feel ?
I was once with my parents and siblings when this song was turned on by someone. The wordings were something like " Saanso’n ki garmiya’n, honton ki narmiya’n…"
In such situations I request the waiter or anyone in charge to change the music, if they can’t turn it off. But such things do ruin the environment..
Isn’t it natural, as Allah has blessed us humans with “haya” of getting ashamed and embarrassed when we visit with family to some place and a couple is busy performing a duty which they should do in their beds.
Simple - just ignore it... keep your eyes out of it... and your family should also avoid it if it bugs you as a family.... Sometimes the music is on loud and the words indecent - but you ignore it.... because nothing is happing on a personal level there...
yup! firstly, you shouldn't let other people's behaviour/music/personal choices bother you so much.
and if it does, either don't visit those places or move to someplace like saudi arabia where all the "shurta's" do is go around smacking people for wanting to be normal and do things, like drive (if you're a woman), or hold hands with their husband while out walking. oh no!
its rude for you to ask for the music to be changed... you dont own the place!
I disagree. As a patron of an establishment you can certainly request (not demand) that music be changed. In most instances restaurant management will be more than happy to oblige such requests, unless some other patrons specifically want to listen to such songs. In which case management will use their judgement.
There are plenty of times where we have requested restaurant management to lower the volume of music, especially if the loud music made it difficult to talk, and in more instances than not, people have been happy to do so. Also, we have some times also requested to adjust temperature (e.g. if its too cold or too warm).
None of these requests suggest you own the place. It just means there was something that was bothering you about the ambiance, and you made it known to the management so they have a chance to fix it and retain you as a happy patron. If they fix it, great. If they don't, then you can make a decision to go there again or not. Most good restaurants, and other such establishments want to have happy and repeat customers. They will do whatever is reasonable to make sure you have a nice experience.
I remember when I was in school there was this restaurant nearby that I used to frequent and I knew the owner. He had a plasma screen TV for patrons to watch. One day I went there and there was some video music channel and they played this song that just had awful images of women. Anyway, the owner was there that day and he happened to see my face when I saw the screen and right away he acknowledged that it wasnt good and he asked his staff to change the channel. I thought that was nice of him to do so. He obviously cared what his patrons (female) thought. Some of the men there didnt mind what was on, but I did and I am thankful he changed it.
Agreed with Faisal and Munni. Such requests really do not suggest that you own the place; infact, I think restaurant managements always appreciate that customers let them know if something's not right about food/atmosphere...
If you are with family or relatives in a restaurant or some other place you visit, and some music is going on with vulgar language, or a poster of woman with less clothes or some immoral commercial, or a couple getting too emotional....How do you feel ?
I was once with my parents and siblings when this song was turned on by someone. The wordings were something like " Saanso'n ki garmiya'n, honton ki narmiya'n...."
In such situations I request the waiter or anyone in charge to change the music, if they can't turn it off. But such things do ruin the environment..
Isn't it natural, as Allah has blessed us humans with "haya" of getting ashamed and embarrassed when we visit with family to some place and a couple is busy performing a duty which they should do in their beds.
i often go to bowling clubs, with my sisters and brothers and we always ask them to turn the tv off or change due to semi nude/vulgar videos on and they happily do that. there is nothing wrong to ask them to change as everyone has different values and taste and most families dont want to watch or listen to such things.
The kind of restaurants we frequent with family, vulgarity is not an issue. Some times high volume of music is irritating or room temperature can be uncomfortable. Thats about it.
Why do we always have to mock anyone who dare mentions sharam o haya? All of us are alike and obviously still too cool, but if someone wants to live differently from us then they have every right to do so.