that there is a very fine line between “Ruling over Your Hubby” and “Ruling over your Hubby’s Heart"???
I am really amazed to see many Desi girls find it so sweet that their hubby never disagree with them and believe that there is a “wow” factor in their husbands following their directions.
Now, I do believe in mutual understanding and decision making but I also believe in personal choice, personal preferences, and a little space when it comes to married life….
Oh, and as being mature adults, we all know that no one is perfect in what they say, think, or do, all the time. So, shouldn’t there be a balance between “how many times my hubby listens to me” and “how many times I listen to my hubby”??? Or does a typical desi girl think that she is the right one all the time??? OR does it mean that such Desi girl has gotten married to a guy who is not capable of making decisions or voicing his opinions???
For me, I will take a little grouchy but well-rounded decision maker man any given day over a romantic cuddly Elmo that starts limbo whenever I push his buttons.
Do you REALLY take it literally when a woman tells you that her husband ALWAYS listens to her or he does WHATEVER she tells him to do?? Seems very unrealistic! I think when someone says this she just means that her hubby listens to her when it comes to specific issues that directly affect her or maybe there is a lot of trust and both husband and wife know each other enough to make some decisions without having to consult with one another each time. Some men have to give their opinion on every single thing no matter what, now those are the kind I find very very annoying.
I am so glad you brought this up! I was thinking the exact samething when reading the “most romantic thing” thread. Some people seem to think it’s romantic when the husband ‘never’ says no to them. Or when he buys them things all the time.
I find none of the above romantic. May be that’s not what they mean to sound like - but they definitely *do *sound quite typical.
when ppl say "never"..dont take it too literally...no1 says yes to everything always
if i ever say that, personally..i would mean that when it comes to issues relating to me ..he doesnt usually say no implying that stuff relating to me..i get to make my choices without him interefering at all and supporting my ideas.
If you think 'desi' women are like that You haven't had any freinds with a Jewish mother! Kidding aside, marriage should be well balanced, but a lof of desi women have seen their mothers and grandmothers take crap from guys and are overly sensitive to being opressed. Its understandable. NO Iwouldn't take a 'grouch' anything, I am too good for that, there should be mutual undersanding and compatibility, no one should be grouchy opresseive etc....
