ahhh yesyes, come on children get this to atleast 2 pages
So why do you think marriages seem to fail so frequently in this day and age? Is it the views on marriage? Is it the independancy? Is it the amount of freedom we have?
lifey - yeah I agree, I don’t think the best thing to do is let all your frustrations out on here so quickly y’know? I mean if you can let billions of people who don’t know a THING about you know how you feel and let them in on your personal relationships rather than going to sort it out with the person who matters the most in this then there really is nothing left.
Definitely the independence thing man. They both think they’re bad and act like little kids yeah. And then she goes running home every two days (to her folks) cos he didn’t take her shopping. Yerh he couldn’t do that cos the football was more important right. And then Oh, Its time for a breakkkkkkkkkkk!! ie - divorce
Sveeti, good question. Not that I am a consultant in this area but here are my humble observations:
Girls go waaan waaan waaan to their mommies about every bit of detail like "he doesn't bring me chocklits on Thursdays" so moms get involved in their girl's married lives and eventually interfere causing problems. Same story with some guys.
The willingness to make a marriage work isn't there a lot because we all have the divorce option becoming more acceptable.
With too much freedom also comes the price of lack of interdependence. We learn to live without "needing" each other. There's too much pride in us to admit we need our spouses. A natural barrier is created.
Lack of knowledge of deen, our responsibilties. More focus is on rights.
Niks, did you take something like Sociology once upon a time?
But yeah one of the points in Socio I covered was the Divorce rate shooting up once the Divorce Act was announced. Cohabitation leads to uncertainty of whether there is anything worth getting married for. Invasion of privacy from other family members when it is not needed.
I can't believe that a couple who has had children cannot find love between themselves, for each other. They must have a really dark cloud over their hearts :(
In my humble opinion the two most important things in a relationship are respect and compromise. You have to respect the other person, their values, their families and things they stand for. You have to understand that there is a reason behind all the things they do, albeit not a very good one but still a reason. Second thing is compromise. You might not agree with your significant other and thats fine, you don't have to win every argument. Sometimes just let them have their way for all the qualities that they bring to the table. I heard this saying from a guy once and i think its so true .... he said do u wanna be right or do u wanna be happy ... and you don't really have to be right all the time.
