How did all you parents feel when your little ones started going to school? I know for alot of people, especially stay-at-home moms who have sacrificed their social lives, careers, etc to stay home and nurture and bring up their kids, it can be a pretty tough thing to deal with having gone from being busy with the kids the whole day long, to suddenly having free time without the kids. Its hard saying bye at the school door and going home to a quiet empty home. Even though its only a couple hours, it could feel like an eternity.
Were you grateful for the time alone or did you wish for them to be home with you again bugging you, making noise, demands, and a whole lot of chaos?
not a single person felt anything or had a hard time adjusting once kids left to school and they were left with so much free time and an empty home? wow!
So when my older one started going to school, like for 2.5 hours, 3 days a week, I thought my world was coming to an end even though I had my little one at home with me. I missed her sooooooooooooooooooooooo much and thought about her all of those 2.5 hours, like how she was doing, did someone hurt her feelings, did she like her teacher, did she eat, was she comfortable in the bathroom, did she miss me, was her little heart beating real fast. Phew. Then weeks passed and I got used to the fact. Also seeing her all well settled, having a life of her own, her schedule, her friends, her projects, her little world, I was happy for that time she had.
Now I am definitely used to it, but I must confess that every morning when she hugs me and goes off, my heart still squeezes and wishes I could be with her. From September the second one will be gone too.
Yes I do get some free time. I catch up on little things here and there. Get food ready for them, run errands and all. But I tell ya, it's harder for me as mom, maybe not as hard for them.
Niki… your case was pretty much the same for my eldest daughter… but i was really a crying mess! So embarassing, but i didn’t care… and it was so sweet cos she kept on saying to me ‘it’s ok mama’… she was reassuring me!!! My hubby had to literally drag me away…(he shed a couple of tears also!) and we spent the day away from the City, but like you said, i couldn’t stop thinking what was happening around her, was she ok… i really can’t convey in words what a mother goes through with her children, but all the mothers out there know… i honestly felt like my heart was being squeezed…
She’s a real intelligent, confident missy, especially for her age, but i was still worried… anyway, she came home super happy, and couldn’t stop talking about what she’d done, who she’d met etc etc… so that made me feel a lot better… but i think if i reacted like this now, how will i be when she leaves home for work, uni etc…
Anyway, there’s still a lot of noise in our house, as i have another little one… i dread to think what’s going to happen when she grows up also and starts school… :hinna:
as mums we’re all glad to have some time to ourselves, but sending your kids to school is heartbreaking,my daughter happily went to nursery and school, i was working at the time so never felt it too much. but now my son is nursery and starts full time in September, i feel choked every time i think about it…when he first started nursery he would be crying his eyes out, i tried to be strong in front of him, but had a good sob in the car and once i got home
I have another little one at home, who seems lost when the other 2 are not around, i can’t bear thinking about when he starts nursery.
