People share good times together.. Those who share bad times, are rare to find.
Lets share how you felt when someone you loved, died. It can be any relative or friend.. anyone!! Also you can commit something you did wrong or something you could do right to that person (IF ANY) and feel light.
My Uncle died when I was young.. I loved him for he used to tell us real stories. His presence was always great. He was an army officer and very brave. He was the eldest brother of my father. I used to call him Uncle and he often asked us (we kids) to call him Taaya Abbu.. and used to say I would like if you call me Taaya Abbu and run to my arms when I arrive at your door but I dont know what kept me from doing this.. Maybe I was very shy then. Its been years he has passed now.. but I still miss him a lot and wish I would do what he wished for.
Zindagi chalti rehti hai marey Howe ke peechay Mara nahi jata..
Sorry to hear about your uncle.
Recite Inna lilahe wa inna alahe rajoon with translation ,and it will give you peace and remind you that we all have to leave this world one day.
ofcourse, life must go on but it makes you learn a lot of things through a lot of experiences..out of which Death is a bitter truth with which everyone has to go through!! Those who die are not alive to tell the experience so those who's dear ones die can atleast share the experiences and it can make us value relations. I see now relations are too easy to break.. one doesnt think for a second time breaking a precious relation and later value it when the person doesnt exist!! So whats the use of crying over spilled milk!!!
I'm sorry to hear about your Uncle! May he be rewarded with the highest place in Jannah. Ameen.
I lost my mother when I was just a kid. I miss her every minute of my life. She was an amazing woman and I feel like I've lost a part of me.
I remember crying myself to sleep almost every night. I used to feel so sorry for myself lol, all my friends had their moms and I didn't. To make things worse I wasn't left with loving and caring people after she passed away and grew up in a house with people who just weren't good to me.
Now that I'm a mother myself I miss my mom even more! I wish she could see me get married, see me have my baby and be there for me and my daughter. But what can you do? Just make dua's that's all.
I feel like there's so much I could've told her and never did. I was just a kid but sometimes I get so pissed at myself for not telling her how much I appreciated her!
If there's something I'd tell others it's that tell your loved ones how much you love and appreciate them!!
Though my partially skewed mind does make me want to believe in there being absolute clear signs of potential reciprocation in your case and from one particular force that lies above us. He apparently did let the same daughter have another the instant he could make valid space for one. Only difference being this time, he's let a daughter to be raised based on two mothers wholehearted wishes. If anything, it only guarantees her being an extraordinarily sparkling daughter and a remarkable grand daughter in the end. Insha'Allah.
I miss my Grand Father a lot,
I remember him mostly being sick as he passed away when i was 9 and he was sick for quiet a while. There is only a little bit that I remember when he was better. He use to tell us stories, take us to zoo and watch cricket games. I didnt know much abt his life when he was alive.
After he passed away, i have heard many stories from his life. My Phopos love me a lot specially becoz I look a lot like my grand father and I remind them of him. My Father also agrees I resemble to my Dada very much.
I just wish, i had heard more abt him from himself and we had spent more time together. Its been 18 years since he has passed and i still want to know more abt him than my other relatives who passed away recently. MAY ALLAH FORGIVE HIS SINS REWARD HIM WITH JANAT.
You should visit his graveyard (if you can) and recite him Fateha, even if you cant go, you can recite it for him in your heart. This is what he needs most and this can be the best gift and show of affection from you for him.
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Its not really a painful thread. Its a happy thread making us realize our loved ones have passed away but they r still alive in our hearts and Also they r in better place.
we shall send them a lot of gifts coming ramazan in form of duas :)
Oh believe me I do that more than you could ever imagine...
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Its not really a painful thread. Its a happy thread making us realize our loved ones have passed away but they r still alive in our hearts and Also they r in better place.
we shall send them a lot of gifts coming ramazan in form of duas :)
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Granted you got a valid point... nevertheless I suppose people deal with things in different ways. Some find sharing loss is easy with others... while some simply bottle it all up and keep on going. Sooner or later it happens to all of us I suppose... that said we all started off as babies... that dont mean we have to like being babies... anyhow I totally agree with the last bit.
Sometimes tiny regrets like yo mentioned can be turned around into rewards for them.
Also reading Yaseen or even just a fateha daily can help them and & help you remember them. Either at namaz times , or before you eat ur breakfast, something you do daily. I hope Allah grants him a lace in the highest heaven and you peace.
This is the best explanation I have come across for understanding why we hold on apart from the obvious reasons .That very niggling why is somewhat explained in this: *"Death ends a life but it does not end a relationship which struggles on in the survivors mind toward some resolution it may never find".
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