When Someone Disappoints You...

[salaam2k14]

Re: When Someone Disappoints You…

@Theorist

…How do you end up reacting? I don’t mean what you try to do. I want to know what you end up doing against your better judgment.

How do you communicate your issues with the person?

1. Talk it out!
2. Stonewall
3. Sulk and make sarcastic remarks
4. Become depressed and shut down completely

I wish I was the type to stand up tall and talk it out without any confrontation happening but I think I would sulk or avoid the person but would not make sarcastic remarks. I don’t think I would want to be depressed but if it’s someone I valued and loved a lot that hurt or disappointed me then maybe.

How do you tackle your emotions?
3. Forgive but not forget
4. Forget and forgive
5. Never forgive
6. Relive the incident over and over again and become angry
7. Introspect and blame yourself
8. Wait for an apology before you decide to forgive
As much as I try to change, I just tend to be the one to forgive because my heart can’t take it to hate the person so much but I won’t forget what they did.
How do you deal with the person?
9. Pretend nothing happened
10. Keep your distance without being rude
11. Make it known you are upset and make sure they see it, be rude
12. Keep your distance but discuss the person with others
13. Get even and take revenge
14. Confront the person and ask them to apologize for their behavior
15. Pick a middleman to deal with the person
16. Realize the person is not good for you so you cut him/her out of your life

I wish I could talk it out but I would most likely realistically keep my distance without being rude.

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