I don’t consider it a flaw. It is actually a quality, a beauty of their pure nature, but at times they hurt themselves a lot because of it. My experience and observation might be wrong but I have found out that women usually don’t “move on” that easily as they don’t want to easily *leave *a harsh chapter of their past life even if life offers them many more doors other than that particular closed door which they keep on staring at.
Dr Mehmet, my friend tells me how his wife refused to live on after the death of their 15 year old daughter who was hit by a car. Every single passing day has been a torture for her, for many years. My mom’s friend found out that her husband was involved in an affair with another woman. She wanted to forgive him but he refused to come home due to guilt. She stopped drinking, eating and sleeping (even praying) till the angel of death took her breath away. The doctors explained the cause of her death was no desire to live…
It is because women are sensitive, sincere and emotional. BUT I wish they don’t punish themselves for the faults of others. It is heart aching to listen to the news of a woman committing suicide after those men (worst than animals) try to deprive her of her dignity.
Any bad incident should be prevented at the first place, through sunnah, but if it is too late then a lot of brave women stand up for their rights and take life as a challenge, because they posses mental strength to punish the criminals and show strength of Imaan to move on with life…Self pity does not suit them. Those who overcome it have done wonders in their life and have emerged as diamond from the rough…
There are even women in my family who torture themselves everyday because the doctors said they might never have a baby. If their husbands and family are able to happily live on with this decision of nature, there is no reason why they can’t ?!!?
p.s. Not all women are like that. I felt like writing this after I came to know of some incidents through different sources.