Re: When should my Shadi Stuff be exported to my Susral??
When my sis got married, because my parents wanted to do the desi thing of buying her furniture (despite the objections from her in laws), we all went and saw her room and done the measurements and decided what things to buy etc. Because she had chosen things according to her room size, her husband knew where everything was to go.
In your case, though, you mention that you havent been able to talk to your husband. So I'm presuming (as has happend with my cousins that are married in pak) they move the furniture into your room the way they think suits best, but then you can move it around when and how you please after your marriage. But I would recomend that you dont start rearranging the furniture straight away! Wont go down too well with the inlaws, unless it is really necessary for you to do so.
When to send stuff round - when you place the order for your furniture then have it delivered to their address, whether its 1 week or 4 weeks before the wedding - its really insignificant but try to have it done not too near the wedding as it will be stressful for them.
If the stuff is already at your house, then again, same as above, but don't send it too soon (as in 3 months before hand) and again not too near the wedding, somewhere in the middle.
From my experience (or my sisters rather), when you send stuff like your clothes round, they should just leave it in your room and leave the unpacking to you. I very much doubt that if you send packed stuff (like in a case or something) they will go through it and unpack it all. My brother dropped my sis suitcases off a couple of days b4 the wedding - and the rest she took herself later, once she had settled in.
BUT all of the above happened in the UK, so my advice is dont worry too much about the setting of your room. If you don't like the way theyve done it, then I'm sure you can move things round.
My sisters hubby had moved a heavy cabinet in the room, and my sister - the little petite thing that she is - became furious and moved it herself back to where it was! Her hubby was baffled and was like, how the heck did you manage to move that?!! He moved it again, but each time he moves it she just moves it back!!! He has now given up realising theres no way he can win!!
