Re: When reading this forum...
I dont think desi women are any more complicated than your average woman. In fact, I find us to be better because we already know what we are dealing with and try our best to mentally prepare ourselves. Things like desi cooking, raising Muslim children, joint-family system living, traditional vs modern roles of the woman, etc are better understood by a desi woman.
Desi girls are no different than any other woman out there. They need the same love, care, affection, etc that a non-desi would. Think about it: most of the threads you read here are about men not paying attention to their wives, neglecting them, taking sides of his parents, not treating her right, etc. Do you think a non-desi will not compain if you dont pay attention to her? Or if you stop taking her out after she has kids? Or if you decide your parents are right all the time? Or if you disrespect her? You think a non-desi girl wil stick around after being mistreated?
Desi marriages are a bit different than non-desi marriages. But to imply that desi women create all the problems and are the ones with the issues is wrong...it takes two to tango buddy.
Maybe if you started to look at them as just women, your perception might change?