Re: When ppl lie to you
May be one day you should read all of your threads, you worry a lot about little things in life and may be Mirch is only trying to help you to realize this.
By calling her a so-called friend, she obviously does not mean that much to you, and probably vice versa, so why does it bother you that she lied? It doesn't matter that she lied, she's just trying to 'keep face'.
You can cut these type of people out of your life, rather than both of you prolonging the facade that you actually have two ounces of care for each other.
veggie veggie veggie…
Ye phadde wala beef thaa khaane wala nahi 
← u think i’m someone who can think of anything except food…
May be one day you should read all of your threads, you worry a lot about little things in life and may be Mirch is only trying to help you to realize this.
Well I know what you mean, but when the purpose of the Life1 forum is to
"Share your wisdom, views, frustrations, experiences and hopes regarding all kinds of Relationships. Interested in learning something new or want to share that you found out today? Contribute your feelings about life and the intricacies or simplicities that go with it."
which I have been doing, then I dont really see what the issue is here?
I mean if this was a sports forum and I kept venting about this stuff then yeah..but when the purpose of this forum to let out views,frustrations,experiences etc. then thats what I do with regards to the stuff that I really dont speak to others about besides here on GS.
Again, my point with this post was not to critisize this friend or be negative.In fact I dont think it is a negative post when I post it saying that I find it hilarius to have experienced this and asking you of your experiences.
Is it your ego that needs to be satisfied here?
Very lame argument. I is not about my ego. I have nothing to gain if you will live a happy life. May be you might send some duaas my way if you could get peace in your life with my help.
If you dont like my posts,just keep away. Its really that simple. No post pops up on your screen by itself.Just dont read them!!
Lame again. I like your posts. There is nothing wrong with them. It is good to vent then to pant up all that negativity. It will do you good too. venting should not be just for venting . You can gain something out of the pointers others give you . I learn a lot too from your posts and the pointers others give you.
Well thats good to know.If you have such a fulfilling life and you are trying to help out someone else, you wouldnt start asking to be proven right. You would be sincere in the way you talk to ppl.
If you do not see sincerity in my post it is because of your own negative attitude towards life. I have to give you dose of reality I cannot just be lying to you by telling you that you are find ,good , ok , holy and mighty. That is not going to do you any good.
Anyways I dont need to tell you about my life - be it good or bad.
You are telling the whole world by opening the threads in Life1.
Purpose of this post was to share our experiences when ppl lie to you and what you say to them.
I am sharing my experiences too and trying to help others who might have negative attitude toward life.
Lets go back to the topic. and for you Mirch, please just stay away if you dont like what you read.
I do stay away from what I don't like. Me reading and responding in thread means I like this thread.
wauw and you dont think your attitude here has been holier than thou:you have a better life so here you are to save me from living a bad one....salvation that is!
Yes, I am trying to help you. I have nothing to gain by pointing out what is wrong with your attitude. What was the purpose of your post just to rant and gather around yourself everybody who wants to rant or you want the opinions of those who do not face the kinds of problems you are facing and share their experiences with you and give you tips on how you can have a happy life and how could you surround yourself with positivity.
You are sharing your negativity and I am sharing my positivity. I am not stopping your from sharing your negativity , you should not have any objection to sharing of my positivity.
Thank you kindly. :k: That is all I am trying to do. I do not consider myself above anybody.
LOL , not a phadda . I am trying to helps my sister with what I have learned from life. If she does not want to take my advice that is fine. But someone who is reading all this might. Then my purpose of my posts is served.
Re: When ppl lie to you
Well thats good to know Mirch. Please do share some positivity but do it in a positive way. It doesnt help a person that you come in with a "I am better than you" approach.
Yes I am telling the negativities of my life cuz thats where I need some advice.Or sometimes one just needs to let out the frustrations. Thats what I use GS for. I dont need to share all my life experiences here - hence all my sharings here are not representing my life.
If you have a read one certain post about my husband not understanding me in a certain matter, you cant just conclude that he is not supporting me. I have a lovely husband but I dont need to create a topic on GS for that.
I create the topics where I think I can learn from others' advices which I really do.
This is simple
there are people who dont feel comfortable sharing information, pregnancy etc. Let them be, why be so judgemental? I mean at the end of the day there are only two things you have to contend with
a-You can let it go because as a friend you dont want to be controlling and trust your friends to do what it right, even if it means not including you
b-You can realize that maybe just maybe they dont think of you as a freind as much as you think of them
c-You and they have very different outlooks on life and they are different enough that maybe you should not be friends.
d-and lastly, people who ask for truth hvae to be ready for the truth and/or understand sometimes it may be hard for their pal to tell them the truth
Lets use these as examples. No attack on anyone intended but just noting that maybe by sparing one the truth the friend is being sensitive.
Q- oh you got married, i did not know
A- yeah, sorry I could not invite you because my family could nto afford it and we really did it on a small scale due to finances
A- yes sorry your husband really stares and it is disturbing to ladies in my family and I could not invite you due to that
A- sorry last couple of events your kids were running hogwild and messing up everything and you did not do anything to control them. I just did nto want to deal with that at my wedding
A- Your appearance is a little embarassing, and I just wanted to avoid dealing with it at my wedding
A- you make inappropriate jokes and statements and sometimes have no common sense. I did not want to deal with some faux pas on my wedding day.
After reading your post, here's my guess: perhaps she tried calling you and couldn't get you because you disconnected your previous number. Maybe she just remembered calling you and not being able to get you but when she did talk to you about it, she just remembered that you didn't pick up the phone.
As for the number not being assigned message, I get that too sometimes when I call people. Then when I call the number again later, it works. I only remember this happening with cell phones though.
Re: When ppl lie to you
None of my friend lies,
PPl who lie lose my respect instantly.
Well thats good to know Mirch. Please do share some positivity but do it in a positive way. It doesnt help a person that you come in with a "I am better than you" approach.
I did not say that anywhere , you told me to get a life when you had nothing better to say. That is when I told you that Alhumdulillah I already have a fulfilling life. May Allah keep it that way. Ameen.
You are the one who had a very mircheela anda and paratha this morning , I guess. :D
I did not say that anywhere , you told me to get a life when you had nothing better to say. That is when I told you that Alhumdulillah I already have a fulfilling life. May Allah keep it that way. Ameen.
You are the one who had a very mircheela anda and paratha this morning , I guess. :D
No I am having PMS but u r just being Mirch :p
:k: That is called a positive attitude. This kind of attitude, is the one which enables one to live a happy , fulfilling life.
I totally agree but I know that this was not the case here!
I totally agree but I know that this was not the case here!
I take my mircheela anda paratha comment back I guess you had a kawwa for breakfast. :p
Re: When ppl lie to you
Thats so bad...I have not lied becuase i wanted to lie, but i agree that i have lied...I had reason...:(....I did get defensive when they pointed out my error...so ya i learned a lesson that doesnt mean that they are holding it against me and have stopped respecting me...:(
We all have our negatives and positives...:)....you are looking from outside..did you ever think why she had to lie...so she didnt tell the whole truth, so what??..My reason being i am not a confident person, so i try to come out with a lamest of lame excuses...that doesnt make me a liar....just deviating from the truth...and moreover when it has not hurt you..how is it bad??
Chameli, I agree with Mirch- You seem to shut out all the advise that could REALLY HELP YOU. It's like you want all of us to blame the "other person". Just becaue you are venting doesn't mean your in the right.
As for your friend...So she lied that she called you. So what? People lie. I'm sure you haven't been an angel yourself and never told a lie. Let it go. It's not like her lie hurt you any way or form.
A good person would look over her lie, and continue being friends with her. Everyone has faults. She probably also has many good things about her too that you could learn from her-- why don't you focus on that instead of something SO STUPID LIKE SHE LIED TO YOU ABOUT CALLING YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
About venting: learn to vent about thing that worth venting about==when you vent about EVERYTHING AND ANYTHING===YOU SOUND LIKE A CONSTANT COMPLAINER AND WHINER
Re: When ppl lie to you
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