Re: When ppl lie to you
Great thread. I learned a lot by reading as usual from Mirchi bhai and others too.
Here I'll differ from some views from other.
First I'll say Chameli is not a bad person.
If she say negative things about ppl it doesn't mean she is a bad person or all the time saying -ve stuffs about ppl.
She want to take out her frustration oar jo wo pasand naheen karti. Let her do that. That will ease her from the pains she get through the wrong or bad behaviour of ppl.
You guys can teach her if she does anything wrong.
As I understood from her only this post I didn't read her other posts so I don't know her. I knew about her from Mirch bhai's sincere post that she is so -ve.
If she is -ve it's not only her fault. What Mirch and other are trying to tell Chemli that it's okay if someone lie to it. It's very normal you won't go for this to dauzakh. If your husband is mean to you it's okay you can't tell truth about him that makes you -ve person.
You can't tell truthe about bad behaviour about your SIL because it's okay if she does that she won't go to hell. You can't complain about her here. PPL will say you are -ve it's okay if someone does something wrong with you.
Now my point is. Why ppl do this. If someone tells truth. complain and whinn.
Chameli I'm on your side. You are right you go girl and post things whatever you don't like.
I also understand Mirch bhai and others concern too that is positive as they are trying to help Chameli.
Now my point is I also do complain and whinning. Why because I'm not like most ppl who lie on daily basis. Lie for no reason. Ppl who don't lie don't like to listen lie even a very single or smallest lie.
I think Chameli you are a good girl. You don't like to listen lies and don't like the behaviour which are wrong and ppl does to you. I'm sure aap hargiz aisi naheen hon gi.
Jo aisay naheen hotay unki takleefain logon kay bayja sulook wajah say barhtay barhtay is hud tuk aa jatay hain kay un say bardasht naheen honay lugta aur wo phir kisi aisay shuksh ya forum pay share kartay hain jis say un logon ka link naheen hota. Takay unki takloofon main kuch araam aay ya mukti milay (chutkara).
Ub masla yay hai kay ziadatar loag jhoot boltay hain to wo such sunna pasand naheen kartay. Is liaay jo sub bolnay walay jo kay aaik aadh hi hotay hain unko puri public hi pasand naheen karti. They go against. Is liaay kay wo un takaleef say guzarhi naheen saktay jin say jhoot na bolnay walay guzartay hain. Kioon? Is liaay kay wo jhoot bolnay walay kay agay jhoot bol letay hain mamla barabar ho jaata hai aur koi takleef naheen rehti.
Aisay hi jaisay koi aap ko aik thappar maray ya do chaar laikin agar aap nain aik thappar bhi usko mar lia to aap ko yay sukoon milay ga aap nain badla lia. Takleef ho sakti hai ya kum bhi jo kuch arsay baad khatm ho jaay gi ya kum.
Laikin jahan aap kuch bhi badlan naheen letay ya lay naheen patay to aap kay under takleef samata jata hai. hotay hotay paimana lubraiz ho jata hai yani glass bhar jata hai aur phir bahna shuru ho jata hai. Shikayaton kis surat main ya kisi kay agay bharas ki soorat main.
Jo loag badla lay laynay walay ya choti choti baton pay jhoot bolnay walay hotay hain wo un dardon aur takaleef ko bilkul naheen samajh saktay. Unki nazar main life ko +ve lena hota hai. Jo na mumkin hai agar game 1 sided ho to.
Ub sub meray peechay paray gay kay aik tum sachchi ho ho aur baqi sub jhootay. LOL.
PPl let her say all -ve things and advice in a very friendly way if you want to otherwise just say thay is wrong aur unko aisa naheen karna chahyay. Only this way it will make her +ve.
Ghalat ko aap sub kaho gay kay aisa life main hota hai tum -ve think karti ho to uski frustration aur barhay gi kay ghalat ko kum uz kum ghalat koi naheen kah raha.
It's my advice for all. To help everyone.
Sub apni jagah sahi hain laikin her person ka sochnay samjhanay aur behave karnay ka amal alag hota hai jis ki wajah say us ko takleef kum, ziada, bohat, ziada ya bilkul naheen hota. Kisi sensitive person ko chikna ghara naheen banaya ja sakta.