Dushwari,
I consider myself to be a pretty forgiving person. I'm a nice, supportive, and helpful friend. I don't have any selfish agendas of my own in my friendships with others, nor does deliberate hurting of others come naturally to me.
A "friend" of mine might commit several offenses and I will let them go. But eventually it comes to the point where I feel that I can't continue the friendship anymore because my own mental health is suffering at the hands of this so-called "friend's" uncontrollable toxic behavior.
I'm all for resolving issues through peaceful discussion. But I've dealt with people who don't acknowledge your hurt feelings, don't even appreciate the help that you've given them, and have such BAD communication skills that they keep yakking their mouths off and don't even allow you the chance to speak for yourself.
I've dealt with people who expect you to quietly endure their belittling sarcasm and criticism, who take your honest mistakes and paranoidly twist them around into horrid untruths........ but don't have the courage or tolerance to hear other people's concerns about their own harmful behavior.
There comes a point where after giving so many chances, that you realize that the other person is JUST NOT GOING TO CHANGE and JUST DOESN'T CARE ABOUT YOU AS A PERSON. And you have to make a choice. Are you really going to compromise your sanity, your peace of mind, and your health for this person who doesn't even know that basic respect is the fundamental for any relationship?
Once it comes to this point, I just let the other person go. Good-bye, good riddends, sianara!!!!!!!!! I cut off communication with them for good. And in my experience, it's a great decision. And after doing so, you feel a deep sense of peace and relief.....a feeling which you LATER realize was missing during your "friendship" with the other person. Really, it's LIBERATING!!!!!!!
The older I get, i'm beginning to realize that after all the patience in the world, you come to a point where the other person's issue is not worth compromising your health over. Life is too short for that. If it's a member of the family, I would suggest limiting your contact. It its a so called "friend," just break it off completely.
There are times when people may not have valid reasons for distancing themselves from you. Perhaps they think they are superior to you, perhaps they got what they wanted from you and now have no use for u. Perhaps they are jealous of you.
Other times, people have very valid reasons for keeping away from someone.
And in my case.........it all boils down to mutual respect, which is earned before it can be deserved. If the other person can't manage that. Sorry, but you gots to go!