…how does that affect the kids? Do you do it away from them? What about heat ofthe moment arguments? Disagreements, loud discussions?
Re: When parents argue, fight...
I think it should be avoided in front of the kids whenever possible. It's gonna happen but parents need to be very conscious with fighting/arguing in front of the kids.
If you do not do in front of kids how would they learn to resolve their differences amicably. 
They should learn how to have a healthy , friendly and passionate debate.
Yes if you are going to use :bailan or frying pan or shouting match then it should be done behind the closed doors.
Re: When parents argue, fight...
It should be avoided in front of kids. Although sometimes we too shout at each other without noticing that kids are around but as soon as we realize, we just stop the argument; right there and resume it after they are asleep but good thing is that break gives us time to cool down and think and mostly when argument is restarted, its not that heated anymore
PS: our 3 years old always runs and come b/w us asking "what? what are you talking about" and we end up laughing instead of argument :)
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that's horrible.. kids get scared when they see their parents fight/argue... and they love both parents and it's hard for them to side one - even if that parent is right.
Agree. But sometimes it impossible. What if you understand this but your spouse don’t.
Agree but most of the time it gives bad impact on kids brain and everything yes but sometimes they can learn but learning could be little.
Awww that’s good.
Exactly.
Every kid want their parents to love each other and live happily ever after.
Re: When parents argue, fight...
...how does that affect the kids? Do you do it away from them? What about heat ofthe moment arguments? Disagreements, loud discussions?
Her tarha say asar hota hai.
- Khaufzada ho jatain hain
- In security paida ho jati hai un main.
- Baar baar daikhtay huway sub normal hai unkay zahan main bus jata hai aur jub apna time ata hai to normal samajh kar bardasht kartay hain.
- Aisi mahol main palay buchchay chirchiray ho jaatay hain.
- Wo apnay parents main say kisi aik ka undaaz seekh letay hain aur jub unki apni zindagi main koi asa maamla ata hai to wo usi tarha deal kartay hain jis tarha unkay parent nain kia hota hai.
Exampl:
Jaisay jo buchchay parent ko cheezain phaiktay daikhtay hain yaan agar baap cheezain phaikta tha ghussay main to beta bhi apnay ghussay kay waqt cheezain phainkay ga.
Agar unhon nain baap ko martay daikh tha ghussay main maan ko to wo apnay time pay wo bhi maaray ga apni wife ko ghussay main.
Ya beti hai to us nain maan ko jis tarha ghussa kartay ya cheekhtay chillatay ya turki ba turki jawab detay daikha hai to wo bhi apnay time pay aisa hi karay gi.
- Aisay mahol kay palay barhay buchchay wo apnay parents ki nisbaat aisay mahol main ziada react karain gay.
- Ziada frustration ka shikaar hon gay.
- Jitni ziada shiddat ho gi parents kay arguments main utna ziada hi wo buchchon pay asar karay gi.
- Unki her salahiaat main kami ho gi.
- Ghussay main ya lartay huway parents ko daikh kar unkay masoom zahan main mukhtalif kauf bhi paida hon gay.
Baqi ainda.
How to avoid?
Bardasht at that time and talk when they are away.
When kids are asleep they can also listen if you scream so avoid screaming and everything.
Talk to each other in polite manner.
As I learned from my parents that gr8 learning I'm posting here.
When husband is angry wife should be quite at that time just listen to him and then when he is in good mood or normal then bring the topic in a polite manner. This way you will save yourself from verbal and physical abuse.
Heat kay time pay koi aik party mukummal withdraw kar lay.
What I also learned from my parents that my father use to like only 2 colors which were so bright and my mom didn't like that at all.
When ever my father bought cloth for my mom he bough same 2 color always and whenever he brings my mom use to say I don't like it. Why every time you bring same color I want those color.
What I learned from that is. When your husband or wife bring you something even you don't like and hate it say thank you aur dil rakhnay kay liaay tohfay ki ahmiaat samajh kar khushi khushi qubool karain aur tareef bhi kar dain agar kar sakain to naheen to sirf achcha hi kah dain.
Zaroori naheen kay aap ki aur spouse ki pasand same ho. Is tarha lanay walay ka dil khush ho jaay ga aur ain bhi aap ko tohfay denay ka dil karay ga.
Laikin agar aap chahtay/chahti hain kay wo ainda aisa tohfa aap ko na day jo aap ko pasand naa aay to aap baad main achchay tareeqay say batain kay agar aisa hota ya yay hota to mujhay bohat hi ziada pasand ata.
I know a husband uffff uski pasand just opposite to his wife. I mean koi quality hi naheen hai lol so that wife (my sister) is so friendly and mazahiaa so wo haath jorti hai Allah kay wastay meray liaay tohfay lanay ki zaroorat naheen agar dil chahta hai to paisay day dain main khud khareed loon gi aap ki taraf say tohfa. Even buchchay laugh on the things is liaay kay khara cheezain hoteen hain lol.
Now to the topic.
Pani pi lay ghusaa kum karnay ko
Ya
3 baar ghari ghari sansaay laay
Ya
Khara hai to baith jaay
Ya
Baitha hai to lait jaay
Buchchon pay buray asrat honay ka sochay
Buchchon ki khatir chor day
Haath uthana ya cheezain phainkna to bilkul na karay is say buchchon main ziada khauf baith jata hai.