When OUR kids get married..............

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Will you go for an arranged marriage or let them meet people on their own?

Will you place importance on khandaan and their zaat?

Will you prefer someone in Pakistan or US/UK/AUS/CAN?

Will you educate your girls or marry them off as early as possible?

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Alot of people say that in next 5-10 years we wont be given the right to make such decisions for our kids :D n i do see that happening for sure.

ANyways, if i had the option i would def make sure they marry A Muslim, A Pakistani (atleast have some roots here) and the family should be good. Zaat? its only a preference not a compulsion. And ofcourse both girls and boys should be well educated before they plan to get married.

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kids huay nahi…thread kholnay or reply karnay ka bohat shoq hai :snooty:

My kids (if they happen)…i don’t know… i would do the same as Maham said…but who knows…they could turn out to be ganday aaanday…

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history repeats OFTEN so be careful ;) :p

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yes i know.....thats why said that!!

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  1. I will always introduce them to people that I think might be compatible with them. But I'm not opposed to them finding their own life partner.

  2. Of course in the perfect world, I'd love for the khandaan to have impeccable reputation. But at the end of the day, I won't judge someone by the actions/mistakes of their parents or other family members.

  3. Majority of my family and all my friends are based in the U.S. So I don't see myself actively looking for someone overseas for my children. If somehow my children happen to meet someone from overseas, then that's their choice.

  4. I want my daughter educated. Whether or not she chooses to pursue a career or become a housewife is her choice...but getting the education is non-negotiable. Girls in my family don't get married before 26/27. We all wait until done with college/higher degrees.

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Same. I forgot to add this to my reply.

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I'd prefer them to meet people on their own but I wouldn't mind looking for them either.

No.

From anywhere they like.

Don't have any girl yet so can't say anything.

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naa . . . they can marry anyone they want , as long as they can take full responsibility for it .

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My daughters will live next door on either side of our home with secret tunnels dug in from our home to theirs. :naak: And every teeny detail on the dude shall be scrutinized :barbie:

Can we not talk about this please :crying:???

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I will ask their choice first if they don't then I will try to find suitable match for them but at the end it will be my children's choice.
NO I don't have any importance on Zaat or khandaan
From anywhere as long as they are muslims
I will 100% IA educate my daughter it is mendatory

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I know it is sad thinking about our daughters :crying:

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waiting for Sajalina to join

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I am getting a ghar damad for my daughter and inthiee ahmaq lerkee for my son so we can :jj: her as needed :x2:

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Will you go for an arranged marriage or let them meet people on their own?

Let them choose whichever they like

Will you place importance on khandaan and their zaat?

No, could not care less

Will you prefer someone in Pakistan or US/UK/AUS/CAN?

Anywhere.. but pref the country they live in, would be wary of passport seekers

Will you educate your girls or marry them off as early as possible?

*Educate them.. If they wanted to marry before being able to stand on their own two feet wouldn't support that *

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  1. If they were to find someone during/after uni that they wanted to marry i wouldn't object. And if they were unable to find someone i would introduce them to people i think they would suit.

  2. If it was their own choice...i couldnt really say much. But at the very least i expect a good family with moral values. Also should definately be a compatible family. If it was my decision i would probably look at every single detail. level of education lah di dah to make sure that they are compatible.

  3. Anywhere is fine

  4. Definately educate. Best thing to do in my opinion is put the girl through as much education as she wants. Makes no difference.

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pehly apna kuch kar loo bad ma kids ka socha jay ga

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  1. I will let my children meet people themselves.

  2. Khandaan and Zaat have no meaning for me. It hasn't been a problem for my family even when my parents married.

  3. I don't prefer someone from anywhere. If my son comes with someone from anywhere in the world all I want is for my son to be happy and I think he will be old enough to make the choice himself.

  4. I will definitely educate my girls.. and when its comes to marrying her off.. I will probably be more protective in her choice. be ultimately the choice will be hers..

not much different then how I chose my life partner.. so i guess my parents were a bit more open then some of the people around me..