When is rape not rape?

[diwana]

Re: When is rape not rape?

@princessjojo

So, marital rape (may be rare, but) is not a myth?

There is no such thing as “marital rape”. It is a myth. Either it is a rape or not a rape. See, the term is wrong since what you have is one word describing marriage binding which has respect or sense of commitment attached. Other is a crime. It is like saying “Holy Murder”, “Religious robbery”.

Yes, marital rape is a myth like Bugs bunny, Santa clause or Easter bunny.!

@canadiandesigirl

lol awesome so now we have established rape is a possibility in marriage
if you actually believe that than you shouldn’t be saying its a silly concept in marriage because it is a very real problem for some people.

Not so fast my friend. I wrote all along about false accusation, not rape.

If you did not read carefully what I wrote that’s not my fault. I clearly wrote here:

@diwana

Rape is rape when it looks like rape. Otherwise it is not rape.

**Splitting hair is what we see these days unfortunately and this silly concept now has found its ways in to married couple bedrooms.

Reasons:

1- for material gain,
2-blackmailing, and
3- as a revenge to cause emotional harm to other partner.
**

Fortunately this kind of evil behavior of falsely blaming is not common. Many patrners despite having the ability to use this ‘weapon’ do not blame other partners.

One may say it maybe because of shame or complexities of the process a victim may not come out. Feel sorry for them and for those who may just not be able to get justice for one or the other reasons.

It is hard to comment specifically on this incidence but like I said above a rape is rape when it looks like rape.

Twisting the scenario, timing of saying no to revoke the consent, being subdude by the ‘weight’ during an otherwise consensual act, or being ‘sleepy’…is like making up excuses.

If one did not fight enough, used whatever one could use to defend, then it is most likely consensual…(unless a gun or any other weapon was used to threat someone’s life or some other means were used to compell/force someone to be a part of this act).

Prove beyond reasonable doubt of someone being a victim or other being a rapist. Otherwise the risk is that someone may get blamed unjustly.