When is rape not rape?

[diwana]

Re: When is rape not rape?

@canadiandesigirl

That still doesn’t make it okay for you to take a stab at his background. But this clearly isn’t my battle to fight and I am sure Jaanwar can get back to you if he wants to.

Ok so here is a scenario. Even though its a spouse’s duty lets say he/she is not upto it and does not have a legitimate reason (for which they are at fault, i’ll give you that). What next? Would it be okay to go ahead anyways without the consent of the other partner? I would hope the answer is no. So what I and others are saying is in a case like this if the partner goes ahead without the others consent that is marital rape.

You did not answer my question.

Anyhow, just like the idea of rape outside could be due to ulterior motive this idea is now infiltrated in to marriage couple relations as well. Can you deny that is not possible? I hope you say ‘yes’ it s possible.

Off course force is always wrong but it will not be needed (at the risk of repetition, I say) if the spouse (man or woman) considers it as a duty to satisfy other.

In marriage, there is no room to say no to spouse unless there is a legit reason. That is what I said. If you love someone, care for the one you married to, then better do something to satisfy his or her need. That’s the position I have.

Let me add here: A real victim may be the one who is falsely accused.