becomes a situation which requires stepping back and looking deep into its development to see where things regressed and became counter productive to the thought of an action materialize and which made it to become an issue:
definition of issue: an occurence of some conflicting or to be discussed difference due to the humanness (presence of humans) of an event.
3 types of factors which lead up t an issue
a) delay in response
b) suspicion and mistrust
c) genuine confusion and miscommunication
d) projected malicious or delibrate introduction of volatile and hostile conflict of interest or thought
e) unpredictability of an event or attitude and behavior of a person
please share your perspective.
Best,
Dushwari
Re: When is an Issue not an Issue any longer but...
I would put "Perception of reality" as the number one cause of conflict. Most of the time, we perceive what reality is and not what actually is the truth behind it.
Re: When is an Issue not an Issue any longer but...
i agree. well said, perceptions can have a huge impact on the atitude you bring to anything, at all.
the issue then becomes, how do you veil or protect without muffling the truth behind.
best,
Re: When is an Issue not an Issue any longer but...
That is indeed a tricky question. I would say the answer is not that easy. Personally, if I am in a situation where there is lot of insistence from the other side and the issue is not important in my eyes, I back off and let the other person win. However, if it is a matter of principle, I do not fall back. I do try my best to see the truth behind my own perceptions (although it is not possible every time).
Re: When is an Issue not an Issue any longer but...
i agree Witch dr. there are layers upon layers of factors at times to open and unfold before true perceptions can be purely ascertained as to their quality and projection.
it always makes things simple to have consistency and open communication no matter how bitter or unpleasant the outcome of prior wrong perceptions would have people be thrown off in their own eyes and in the eye of those who become target of wrong perceptions.
in the end, it is a situation that perhaps demands fuller good sensible knowledge than assumptions and prejudgments. i read somewhere that judgments has little bearing on real truth & therefore it is not useful to waste time on pondering over things that are obviously true.
acceptance of reality and own losses to some non-brave people, come after their wrong judgments have limited their abilities to discern right from wrong, truth from untruth and fabricated lies from a genuine regard.
in the world we live in today, all kinds of blood or non blood relationships have to have the soundness of being first hand in knowing and truly understanding the each other without hurried biases and arrogant preferences, since no one knows who is the best unless the void of ill-perceptions is not filled with even handed and truthful personal insight practice with which to conclude about each other.
darkness of spirits can become ambitious from being mellow, when we learn to make our own and others' perceptions clearer in the truest sense of the word.
Dushwari