is more educated than the other?
what cultural norms are in place about education of women and men.
does the relationship of a spouse, changes in any way due to differing educational level?
share if you like.
best,
Dushwari
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If more educated means more and/or bigger degrees, then, I do not buy it.
Sanity and Humanity can be taught at home as well. College degrees are not the guarantee of understanding the good vs bad.
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humility and honesty too is necessary.
intellectual vigor is one thing, but as a learner and teacher, having a compassion or reading and analytical reflective thinking, more and better (higher) education is necessary.
of course, simple, honest, yet illiterate people can be sagacious, too.
educational differences may very well lead to incompatability.
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I see your point very well...despite I disagree with you.
Like AQ said eduacation does not mean a bigger degree.
Compatibility is determined how much one person or other is willing to change for the opposite person.
This could be out of respect, or love. If this willingness is based on force or material ain then it does not last long.
If more educated means more and/or bigger degrees, then, I do not buy it.
Sanity and Humanity can be taught at home as well. College degrees are not the guarantee of understanding the good vs bad.
i agree
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i dont have a degree yet:(
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everyone seems to have missed the point that if forinstance, you were to marry someone half as educated as you are, would you be mentally compatible?
i am pointing to the same WRONG terbiyit, which is a reality in case of men, who are taught auret paee kee jotee heye.
there, together with his ineducation, he is also being given the same rut ineducation at home since his parents are also uneducated.
i am not talking about the families, who have scruples.
their cases are diff. they are able to be considerate and not act out of their delibrate ignorance.
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dushwari
my husband is very good at maths and i'm not...he often taunts me for being not able to do simple questions.
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degrees are overrated
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A husband and wife are a team. We learn from each other and grow together. Each one is talented or gifted in things the other is not. That is why marriages succeed, because instead of being jealous of the other, they can receive an impart those gifts and talents to each other.
is more educated than the other?
what cultural norms are in place about education of women and men.
does the relationship of a spouse, changes in any way due to differing educational level?
share if you like.
best, Dushwari
Education wise, we both have Masters degree, but my wife is more knowledgeable than me in many things
Especially in English and Arabic, she is my ultimate source. Spelling, grammar, Tajweed and those kind of things.
I dont feel threatened or insecure about that fact, I use it in my advantage as I know that when she tells me something, she would make sure that she is giving me right information.
Ofcourse an educated person wants an educated spouse but at the same time degrees and diplomas do not ensure compatability.
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Husbands and wives complete each other not compete with each other. Degrees shouldn't matter really...
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very well said, Niksik. absolutely true.
Alhamd Allah, Tariq bhai.
not many men are nice in openly saying this. may you always be like this, amen.
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Education wise, we both have Masters degree, but my wife is more knowledgeable than me in many things
Especially in English and Arabic, she is my ultimate source. Spelling, grammar, Tajweed and those kind of things.
I dont feel threatened or insecure about that fact, I use it in my advantage as I know that when she tells me something, she would make sure that she is giving me right information.
Dushwari..i understand what u r saying..and i think it is true that if one spouse has less education than it can be a problem..especiallyif it is the husband ..because he will have a more primitve thinking whihc is basically 'i am hte man..u r the woman..i a m ur master..u r my servant..u do what i say..bcs after all what do u know? u r just a woman..n if the owman is more educated she is not goign to settle for htis very easily, life will become hard.
iv noticed usually men who are higher educated usually do not have this type of thinking..thier mentality is more fair and of a softer nature..becasue higher education teaches us to go back and reflect on what we have been 'told' is right ..and thta blindly following any authoritarian rule/law /thinking or what not is cutting ourselves and our loved ones short..
so yes, this mismatch of education CAN definitely cause hardships for both in the marriage..
but im not saying this is absolutely true in every instance so no mud-slinging pleez!