when going to someone's house for a rishta!

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hi everyone,

for guys especially, when you went or will be going to someone’s house for rishta, do you feel shy or anything? how do you manage all the questions you are asked? and especially if you have never seen the girl before and she is introduced to you in front of everyone by everyone, how can you look at her?

isn’t a bit weird?

can you please share your experiences? thanks

for girls/elder sisters/aunties etc, did you ask any question(s) to the guy when he came for a rishta?

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Re: when going to someone's house for a rishta!

SMILE! it cracks that awkward tension when you are meeting someone for the first time...and be very polite and make sure your answers are short and simple... the girl's side must know your bio-data prior to the meeting, hence why you are invited to go their house..I think the questions should be simple just to evaluate your social skills...and most likely 2-3 questions.
And don't stress at all about what they are thinking about you..because when you start thinking about what everyone else is thinking..it's OBVIOUS ;) Just relax and think you are visiting family friends ...
And if the girls parents are okay with it..they may ask you two to sit somewhere alone, so she can ask you questions and vice versa..which is fair (if it goes to this stage, that probably means the parents think so far so good)..
..urgh I think I may have stressed you out more with this post?!

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Re: when going to someone’s house for a rishta!

Is it ok to ask her questions regarding her major ??? :hmmm:

cauz questions regarding religion & ethics are considered offensive … isn’t it ? :bummer:

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i have six brothers n not even once i went,its totally embarassing,y cant you meet a girl in a shadi or any party,go to her house when u really like her otherwise its torturous to tell them if u dont like the girl or her family.

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yup, that really helps. thanks for that

but i dont know why, regardless of what ever her parents think my mother will never ever let me talk to her seperately. i mean i am grown up but my mother still treats my like a small boy in these matters which i really dont like but we hardly discuss these matters which again is not a good thing.

anyway, lets see what happens

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yup, may be minor too? lol

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It wasn't too weird, I've done this 4 times. At the first meeting talk I talked to them about what they studied, where they work, what they do, if they like to travel places etc. If you can't have a reasonably flowing conversation about these basic topics (which are fine to discuss even in the presence of others) then the odds are that you two couldn't get along anyway.

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you know what you are absolutely right. but its really hard to find someone that way.

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Re: when going to someone's house for a rishta!

You can also talk about movies, tv, and other passtimes, to get a sense of their interests.

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Re: when going to someone's house for a rishta!

Im a girl but Ive caught guys doing sneek peeks at bad times so dont do that! You dont want to look like you're ogling the girl! Like everyone says here, relax and focus on the conversation around you. Try to take part in it, pay attention and SMILE. Your attitude makes a big difference.

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i know but im sure u ll agree some people really go insane looking for a girl,even my mother she went to 20 places n every time she wuld take her sisters with her,she turned finding a rishta into circus..thats annoying desi women abuse people like this.

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thanks a lot everyone. your replies are very much appreciated...

one thing that i want to know is that why my mother always tries to hide this topic from me. like she would discuss it with everyone but not me. they will all make the programs etc but she won't discuss it with me. she treats me like as if i am not mature enough or something...

anyway.. again thanks a lot

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Re: when going to someone’s house for a rishta!

^^ Dude what else u want … consider your self BLESSED :cb:

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how?

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Re: when going to someone's house for a rishta!

Haven't you heard ignorance is bliss :D

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Because you are her pyara sa bacha...lol. Parents think its unnecessary to involve their "children" in the process even if this "child" is well over 30 years old. My mother is the same way with us...she tries not to talk about it but I force myself into the conversation and that usually does the trick. You are a guy, it should be easier for you. Talk to her alone and tell her you want to be a part of this so there is no miscommunication in the end. These rishta-things are so blind to begin with so I totally understand where you are coming from.

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Re: when going to someone's house for a rishta!

This like a big mistake parents make when the don't involve the children who'd actually getting married in the process/conversations.

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yes, you're right. i don't know but i am a bit shy, reason being is that we don't have any understanding between us in that regard.

i just get hints about this matter. she never talked to me straight away. anyway, i will talk to her.

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so true..

but i dont know why parents don't understand..

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with all due respect you may wish to say to her... if she wants you to get married then she appreciates your old enoug to get married ... then she also needs to start treating you like an adult..