What is a life of a woman “not” wasted? What are the criteria for a woman to not end up wasting her life?
No life can ever be a waste.
"My only regret is that I have but one life to waste..." - The wise folks at Penny Arcade.
They'll find out on judgement day, and same goes for the males.....
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*Originally posted by M: *
They'll find out on judgement day, and same goes for the males.....
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indeed..
What do you mean wasted? A life can never be wasted.Maybe its not lived to its fullest potential, but its never a complete waste.
I am sorry my question was ambiguous. One thing that comes to my mind is when some people consider being a housewife as a woman’s life wasted. Or perhaps someone who had not lived to her full potential? Why is it that a woman who chooses to be a house wife to devote herself to be the basic unity of society, a family, considered a waste?
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*Originally posted by the_paindoo: *
I am sorry my question was ambiguous. One thing that comes to my mind is when some people consider being a housewife as a woman’s life wasted. Or perhaps someone who had not lived to her full potential? Why is it that a woman who chooses to be a house wife to devote herself to be the basic unity of society, a family, considered a waste?
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It all has to do with feminists. Back in the day when women didn't have equal right and women could not vote or become doctors, things were different. Now women can choose their path in life and have more options. So many feel that if a woman chooses to just stay home and raise kids then she is missing opportunities of doing something meaningful. I guess it's not felt that raising children and running a household is important because it's such a traditional and expected role.
I think there is some cultural stigma as well. Women sacrifice their own happiness and dreams too for the sake of their family. And that submissiveness is probably what is considered 'wasting your life.'
i used to think that education for a woman was a waste of time if all she was going to do was be a wife and mother. even now, in pak it just seems like a status symbol, to be college-educated, without any real use for it.
but i c it differently now. i don't really plan on working after im married, and i cant picture myself in any 9 to 5 job, or doing a masters in anything. maybe ill change my mind in a few years, but rite now for the future i just want to be a good wife and mother, and yah i have ppl tell me im a loser and that there's life beyond college or wahtever, which really pisses me off
but to the original question, i think a life wasted is when u do something u dont love only out of duty , or not working to ur potential. if you have the burning desire and the potential to be a brilliant doctor or soemthing, but instead ur just a housewife, and you hate being a housewife but can't bring urself to tkae that plunge, then that wud be considered a life wasted...i think its all relative
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Women sacrifice their own happiness and dreams too for the sake of their family. And that submissiveness is probably what is considered 'wasting your life.'
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Saima, no one could have said it better. Paindoo, I am happy the thread was inspired by my remark. Women who give up their dreams coz of the pressure from the family and society, cud feel they wasted it all. I mean there are always ways where everything cud have worked out if others had made equal compromises too. But if she is the only one making sacrifices, it sure is a waste.
Life is wasted when one uses his/ her life for wrong purposes! Examples include drinking, taking drugs, selling ones body etc etc.
On a related note, I think education is very important for everyone. Just being college educated is a must now in these times. Even if a woman wants to be a stay-at-home mom her previous education will make her a more well rounded and enriched person. Sure, for some people it is a status thing to say, "Our daughter studied at Harvard." But it's what that girl takes with her from her education that matters. It may not be for a job. I think a human mind and heart are both very hungry for experience and knowledge. Nobody should ever stop learning and nobody should ever just give up and accept a hopeless situation if they're not happy.
getting married ---> wasted
when she waste her time in front of TV or fashion and don't give proper tarbeyat to her kids which is her prime responsibility
i think life may be wasted when you don't live up to ur full potential , maybe out of duty or fear or whatever. i knew a girl who was so smart, she got scholarships to NYU, columbia and princeton, but instead , at the insistence of her family, she went to the local community college and got married after graduation...and no she wasn't desi shes old school italian/catholic.