Not sure what you mean by "total freedom." When could I make decisions about my day-to-day activities without constantly asking permission -- mostly in college, but there were still restrictions. I guess those only existed bc I chose to let them exist. I could've done whatever I wanted, since I lived away from home.
Now I've worked, married, had a child, and I can do what I want on a daily basis. Do they still have opinions about EVERYTHING I do and let me know? -- of course. I don't think that's ever going to change, and I don't need it to. It's how they show they care.
Define total freedom?
lol Until I was married, I wasn't allowed to ever stay out after 9pm. Prom was the only exception, I had to come home by 11pm and mom started calling from 10pm.
If I came home at 9:05, I would receive a 30 min lecture.
I was not allowed to go to sleepover obviously. I was not allowed to go anywhere without permission/telling mom, who would ask em a dozen questions and get all my friends numbers before I left.
After marriage, hubby didn't care where I went. However, I was worried about what my inlaws would think so I was home all the time.
When hubby and I moved in with mom shortly, and I went out until 10pm… my mom yelled at both hubby and I. She told him not to let me go after 9pm. Now we have our own apartment and I can do mostly whatever I want to. Somethings our parents give their opinion about but I get to decide at the end.
On the other hand, my brother is18 and is allowed to do whatever he wants to. He spent the night at a hotel with his gf on prom and mom knew about it. She offered to buy him condoms!! He can have sleepovers, go out with friends on trips, go away for college, etc. She is paying for his school while I pay for my own. Also, he got a BMW for his graduation and I got nothing at all. He receives a brand new smart phone for going away for college. Anyways, But mom still claims that she is not sexist in the same sentence she says "you are a girl." Sorry about the rant. :(
My sisters aren't allowed to be out of the house after maghrib. Exception is..if they are going to their friend's wedding etc..wo bhi..only until 11pm. On other hand..i sometimes stay out until 2 to 3 am and dabay paon come home. And in the morning..i get mini lecture..or bas kuch khas nahi. :D
I know. Sigh!
She threw such a fit about it. My brother told her that it wasn’t any of her business anymore and that she lets him do whatever then why not me. But she just says, “because she is a girl.” Then he got a lecture and I got blamed for creating tension between them. I did not even say a word or get my brother involved. He just heard her yelling at me and interrupted.
Anyways, I think I would have never gotten any sort of freedom unless I got married. Hubby mA allows me to dress the way I want (except in front of his family), go out, hangout with friends, etc. So I guess I have freedom now that I am 22 and married and moved out of my inlaws place
Female. Got a lot of freedom when I started to work. I was in pakistan and went about in cabs alone, went to concerts with friends and went out to eat etc. Even took 2 foreign trips and stayed with cousins or moms; friends but was pretty much free to do whjat I wanted during the day there too, Mom was a bit worried due to Pakistan's conditions but over all didn't complain much. I, never abused the freedom.
Paindoo, As you enter adulthood you realize parents are the not the ones to put the real restrictions on you or grant you freedom either.
When we are younger we feel parents restrictions are the only thing that holds us from having "all the fun we want" That bubble is quickly burst as we become an adult.
So now that your parents have given you "all the freedom"...the question is: Now what?
WOW…just wow! Especially given how she wants your husband to treat you (ie. HER daughter!).
