Re: When a relationship doesn't move anywhere
When two people love each other,and want to get married to each other,but their relationship doesn't seem to move anywhere,then what should be done?My question is how can a girl especially make a guy think seriously about their relationship and marriage?
What do you mean that your relationship doesn't seem to move forward?
Are you saying that the two people are just shyly admiring each other form afar and not talking to each other....whilst wishing to get married?
You can't MAKE a guy marry you. You wouldn't want a guy who is being MADE to marry you (by parents or you for that matter).
You want to marry a guy who knows you're the one for him and wants to propose to you with a relaxed and certain mind.
There are a few issues to consider. First of all, you haven't provided many details regarding your situation. Is the guy a student? If so, he might prefer to finish his education, get well settled in a job, before thinking of marriage. What about the guy's parents? Maybe he's hesitant about discussing the matter of marriage with his parents because they have other plans for him. Also, marriage changes your whole life...and everyone is different. Although he might love you, he may not ready for such a huge change yet.
Now what can you do about this? Here are some ideas.
1) Don't nag or pressure him to marry you. This will make you look insecure and it will turn him off.
2) If you are currently getting rishtas from other guys, perhaps you can give the guy you like a "hint" about these rishtas. If he really wants to marry you, he'll make his intentions more clear and possibly take action.
3) After giving him the "hint," give him a break. Involve yourself in various activities. Give him a chance to miss you and sort out his feelings. If you're constantly hanging around him, that's not healthy. Give some distance without appearing rude.