When two people love each other,and want to get married to each other,but their relationship doesn’t seem to move anywhere,then what should be done?My question is how can a girl especially make a guy think seriously about their relationship and marriage?
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Your question contradicts your starting statement. Apparently only the girl is in love and wants to get married. If both were thinking along the same lines, the relationship would have moved ahead.
To make a guy think seriously about the relationship and marriage you need to make sure that the guy isn't in it for the kicks and the benefits without getting too involved. If he is sincere and just moving slowly and cautiously - which is very natural - give the relationship some time to develop and flourish. A girl rushing into emotional involvement and marriage could be a big turn off. Give yourself enough time to get to know each other well, assess compatibility and feasibility and let it go at a natural pace.
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do not ask him to get married, give him space to think tht ur imp to him, usually girls make big mistakes by running after boy to get married n want every thing to get done in no time, but that isnt life is. U need to make him sure that ur tha best gal for him on the earth without insisting on marital issues, wen he'll realize this fact, he'll be ready to take stand for u, but all u need is patience n time.
gud Luck :)
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This is kinda how i felt with my post earlier with my longterm relationship, soo much was going through my mind and all i wanted is for him to understand its important to move on and to show serious commitment by taking action in the form of official enagement (our families have known a wile) so we can move onto wedding planning etc. I wanted him talk to his parents again about us as mines wanted this asap and are just waiting for him to finish uni . Anyhow after giving him time and realising that it's not right to keep bringing it up as he is still studying and has exams to think about, backing off was worth it. I think if u know him well enough you would know or try to find out if he is genuinely serious about marrying you. It might not be the right time for marriage talk as it was the case for me, he could have other stress going on that he hasn't told you. That was just my situation but i think main thing is to talk about ur feelings because u need to communicate about what it is you want. If he truly loves you but doesnt want to settle just yet, has career plans etc. then he should discuss them with you. What Jaanwar has said i agree with and it can defo become a turn off and cause more problems. Maybe you need to give him space to realise your worth and make him realise where you are comming from. I can't really give advice but all i can say is you have to be patient and pray.
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When two people love each other,and want to get married to each other,but their relationship doesn't seem to move anywhere,then what should be done?My question is how can a girl especially make a guy think seriously about their relationship and marriage?
What do you mean that your relationship doesn't seem to move forward?
Are you saying that the two people are just shyly admiring each other form afar and not talking to each other....whilst wishing to get married?
You can't MAKE a guy marry you. You wouldn't want a guy who is being MADE to marry you (by parents or you for that matter).
You want to marry a guy who knows you're the one for him and wants to propose to you with a relaxed and certain mind.
There are a few issues to consider. First of all, you haven't provided many details regarding your situation. Is the guy a student? If so, he might prefer to finish his education, get well settled in a job, before thinking of marriage. What about the guy's parents? Maybe he's hesitant about discussing the matter of marriage with his parents because they have other plans for him. Also, marriage changes your whole life...and everyone is different. Although he might love you, he may not ready for such a huge change yet.
Now what can you do about this? Here are some ideas.
1) Don't nag or pressure him to marry you. This will make you look insecure and it will turn him off.
2) If you are currently getting rishtas from other guys, perhaps you can give the guy you like a "hint" about these rishtas. If he really wants to marry you, he'll make his intentions more clear and possibly take action.
3) After giving him the "hint," give him a break. Involve yourself in various activities. Give him a chance to miss you and sort out his feelings. If you're constantly hanging around him, that's not healthy. Give some distance without appearing rude.
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They have refunds for everything, but relationships. Pfft !
On a serious note, you can't make a guy think anything if he does not feel it's what he wants/needs. And if they both love each other, a relationship would definately be moving forward (assuming there are no issues ie. families disagreeing etc). Step back, rethink.
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What is keeping the relationship from moving forward?
If it is because the guy needs to finish school and get a stable career and save up money before he can tell his parents then it is somewhat understandable - I went through this with my fiance. He wasn't even allowed to tell his parents about me until he found a job etc. and so I waited patiently for a few years...now we are engaged and getting married in a few months.
Every family is different. Some families will not allow their son to be married until he has a good job and money...others will get their son married as soon as they even hear of their son talking to a "girl" because they are so concerned with honour etc.