Okay, so say a girl and a guy dated/liked each other and everything is perfect, they have the occasional fight or argument like any couple but they are madly and wholeheartedly in love. They know once they get married, their life will be the most amazing little life ever and, well, basically they are crazy about each other.
They eventually get married and are uber-excited and everything goes well UNTIL the girl really gets to know her in-laws, and yes, his parents/mother live with the couple. And eventually due to all these problems, the couple no longer is madly in love and question whether what they had was real love or infatuation.
Have you ever heard of a case like that? Where even the most passionate and in-love couples got near or fully divorced b/c it just didnt work when they actually started living together (and no way in heck did the girl have a clue as to how life REALLY would be once her in-laws and the love of her life were put in the same picture)?
I ask b/c I was reading Regretful’s post about her Momma’s Boy husband and they did have a love marriage so I found it kind of shocking that they were in love yet now she’s contemplating divorce and her husband is blindly following anything his mom says. I mean that kind of change and falling out love is kinda’ scary. Does it happen or the people that get married were never TRULY in love?
Re: When a "love marriage" goes once family is added to the picture.
jab desi logo ki shadi hoti hay to siraf husband aor wife nahi hotay poora package accept karna parta hay jis mein saas,susar aor nand/daiwar b atay hein :)
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...lol^
in my defense, I got the idea to start it after everyone kept asking the OP of the other thread how 'halaat' got this way when it was a love marriage. Maybe i'm not articulating what I mean.
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I thought I loved him and after I got to know his family it all changed. I don't know why, maybe it's my fault but you can take only so much as a human being. Time and change just open your eyes.
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I think a lot more adjustment is needed in this case. Cos before marriage girls have seen one facet of their husband, exclusive of family. Plus they feel like as mehboobas they have a certain monopoly over his affections. But when family comes into the sphere after marriage they find it difficult to reconcile that image with one where the husband has affections for other people too.
Before she was sole person dominating role of Mehbooba. Now she has competition since her title changes to "family" and there are other members in that set!
